so last night i had my friends over. my boyfriend, my best friend, and her boyfriend. so we went into my room, just MY boyfriend and i. so we were making out for like 20 minutes already, and still going. and having tons of fun. but he unbuttons my pants, and he is like about to go down but then he doesn't. and then i'm trying to hint at i want to give him head, but he like doesn't get it, and he's not a virgin, and neither am i. but i dont get what's wrong?
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I wanted to give him head so bad.
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Why were you trying to hint? What was stopping you from just doing it? If he wanted you to do it then there would be no problem, if he didn't then he would stop you.
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It was weird. idk. like i think he wanted it, but he didn't know that what i was doing meant i wanted to do it. he might of thought "it was too early in our relationship" because he knows i dont want him saying i love you yet.
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Well, what were you expecting to happen? If you want to go down on him then you should be the aggressive one. If its early in the relationship then it might not be expected for him to ask for it so soon.
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I'm not sure if he WANTED IT and didn't know if I WANTED to. or if he thought it was too early. cuz normally guys, they're all like dont care if its early .. cuz guys are just guys. but then girls are mostly think its too early so... yeah i dont think he's like that. and i would ask him. but last time i was talking to him on myspace, i forgot he has parental controls and i was just fooling around, and kidding, but his mom read it, and yeah, it sucked.
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Oh wow, that can indeed suck. And may I ask, how old are you?
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15....
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Well the thing is really that if you want to give him a blowjob then all you have to do is take the initiative and do it. I don't understand exactly what it was that made you think that he didn't want you to.
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idk. whats weird is. while my friend was in the other room. she was trying to do the exact same thing but the guy was like huh??
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Hmm, sounds like you may have a Brokeback Mountain situation... It may just be that the guys didn't know what to expect and didn't want to push their luck by going for anything serious.
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True. now all me and my best friend can do is talk about how we wanted to go farther that night. My boyfriend is out of town right now. but he'll be back tomorrow. and he says he wants to hang out, but i doubt i could get the house all empty again, last time it was just cuz my parents went out for dinner and my brother was partying. so it was just luck. otherwise we would of been at my best friends house with her little brother and sister walking in every 3 minutes. he wants me to go to his house. but i dont want to cuz of his mom reading my messages to him. i dont want her to like hate me
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Well you are gonna have to meet his mother sooner or later, its inevitable. It migt as well be sooner than later so you can straighten out any ideas that she have about you.
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The thing is, i've talked to his dad on the phone, he is totally cool, he asks me like "so have you gotten freaky with my son yet" but its his step dad so i guess its different. but he's so cool and his mom reads a message when i said "penis" as a joke, and she's like "i wonder what your mother would think of that" well i told her that my mother wouldn't care because she knows i was kidding. but he says his mom would like me if i went to church with them, if i have to go to church with them to get her to like me, then i will, but if it doesn't work i dont know what to do.
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So the whole embarassing message deal is just because you said penis? That is nothing to worry about, unless you were suggesting doing something to her son's penis, then maybe that is reason for concern. His step-dad seems very cool, as long as you have him on your side and you don't give his mom any reason not to like you, then you should be fine.
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I hope your right.:]]he like suggests that he son is more outgoing. and does more stuff. his mom is like YOU ARE STAYING A VIRGIN UNTIL YOU ARE MARRIED.But little she knows, its a little late to wait till marriage.:]]well i'm off my friend is going to come over soon. and its kinda late.i'm tired.and well i'll be back on tomorrow.to discuss my lame problems with the world.Goodnight:]]
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I think the answer is just this simple: if you want to give him head, next time you're making out with him, don't wait for him to get up to speed. Just sit him down, pull his Finnigan out, and go at it. If you need somewhere to go, you can always try a freinds house that's indifferent about the whole thing, or a theater. If you're 'too early in the relationship' or 'feeling weird about it', then you're obviously not as eager to do it as you think you are.
Besides, when the girl takes initative, it's sexxxxxy :sunglasses: WAY sexy -
Thats not fucking trym "guyes are just guys." We are not stupid, wee think about our actions. We think about if we really want things to happen. Your ignorance is outstanding.
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In future, state who you are replying to, or better yet click the "reply" button at the corner of their post.
And also, as a guy, I can tell you that not all guys will think about their actions when faced with the opportunity to do something sexual with their girlfriend in a safe environment without the likelihood of being caught. Obviously this doesn't apply to all guys, but don't think to highly of anyone, we all make choices differently and as humans we all have our weaknesses.