If you can find it in your heart to read this whole post & reply I thank you... I have been with my g/f for 1 year and 7 months the longest relationship for either of us & we go @ it like jackrabbits @ least 3-4 times a day throught the realtionship I haven't been the best b/f when it came to trust (trusting her) but we worked through that for the past 2 months however she has been trying to break up with me being very mean etc... when I ask her Y she says b/c she was having bad days etc.. well over this summer she broke up with me & I had relations (not pentration) w/ another girl I tlld my girlfriend that she (the other girl was coming over wanted to hang out etc... & was that cool she said yes) & after me & my mistress did whatever I actually made up with my girl I told her what happened she in her mind made the actions just kissing after I told her that is was more than that... well today she tells me maybe she not the woman for me & all this other stuff & she tell me she want to be celebite for a year I say to her why is it so you can have clarity & mind & body so you can deal with some of the issues that you have she says so she can be a better christain but in a year I'm graduating from college...what is the deal she kows I'm a sex addict & says she "fears" I won't be with her if we don't have sex but if I choose not to stand by her side on the than as she puts it "your free" i.e. no longer in a realtionship with her PLEASE explain what going on if you can
PLEASE HELP...G/F decides to practice abstince Y?
Silk sheets....whipped cream, blueberries, cherries & hours of the best sex & she'll wanna get married.....or maybe she just loves me ....I'll neve...
sounds like you screwed things up, she doesn't want sex, so what? great for her, if that's what she wants, it's not up to you
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In the mediaeval stories, the lady gives her lover some difficult quest or task to do, to show that he is worthy of her love. Your girlfriend has given you a difficult quest, to give up sex with other people for a year. She has done it to test (a) your faithfulness, which your playing around with another woman has put in doubt; and (b) whether you really want her, or just her body.
Do you accept the quest?
This is a question of whether you love her, most girls Ive been with love this little game. Just give it up for a while, maybe a month or so and she will turn around. I assure you the whole christian thing is total bullshit. Also sounds like you two need to do some major talking. Im confused though, are you two even back together or not. I mean if you've broken up, then don't go back m8, not worth it if ya ask me...
It's true it's not mediaeval times now, but people haven't changed all that much. If you look at the things women find romantic, they all involve the man going to trouble for her. The idea of the man proving himself worthy is still there, even if it isn't explicit.
Here is my opinuin take it or leave it
If guys haven't realised by now girls have to feel like you want them and only them. If you have to go else where to get satisfied coz she isn't giving you any then why should she trust you if you's are apart What do you do when she has her period GIRLS have to feel like they are wanted for more then there body yeah sex is great I won't say I don't like it coz I love it BUT if you love her you'll miss more then the sex and she'll miss it to and eventually want to do it if you want her back you better go after her telling her how much you miss the other stuff and if you have to mention the sex side of things which I suggest you don't but if you have to tell her she's the best you've had and love it when you are that close to each other.
ASK YOURSELF do you miss her and the things you did together or just the sex.
If I'm wrong and its just a religious thing get out while you can
I think she's feeling unloved, and wants you to show your love in other ways. If she feels that she wants to refrain from sex for a year, then you should respect her choice. True love will keep you hanging forever. Also, I think that once she sees that you're standing by her side regardless of her new choice, she'll probably give up the idea before long. Unless of course she has made the choice so that she can be a better Christian. Either way, respect her decision, she's the same person, love her as you did 6 months ago! Sex isn't everything, and love doesn't only come in the form of intercourse!
Just jack off more often! Works wonders!
my boyfriend and i went through a similar problem, though not as serious not too long ago...females (not all-im merely speaking of the gender as a whole) tend to care more about the emotional sides of things...for instance, while a guy may love sex because it feels great, a girl on the other hand enjoys the closeness to the man she loves...having sex so often might have made your girlfriend think that it is more of an act of physical gratification and not one of love...while talking this through would be a much simpler route, it sounds like your girlfriend wants proof of your love (sorry to sound cheesy) possibly due to your relations with another girl while the two of you were seperated...her decision to stop having sex may very well be a reflection of her fear that you love her body more than the person inside of it...her decsion may or may not be due to your actions, it could simply be a physcological problem she has created, but despite the reasoning, the solution boils down to this...if you truly do love this girl you need to respect her wishes and make sure she knows that you care about only whats best for her...in doing this perhaps she will "lighten up" or realize that you do love her and sex is only a way you show it...of course that would be the ideal situation, but if it doesnt work out that way, the only thing you can do is wait it out-decide if she's worth it and whether the two of you should stay together and work through this...i know it sounds terribly unfair, but your girlfriend is calling the shots & the only decision you have is whether or not to respect what she wants...hope this mindless ramble is helpful in some way-sorry i tend to get carried away when it comes to comparisons to my own experiences...whatever happens i wish you the best of luck
she's abstinating b/c she is smart... that or you pissed her off
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