ok i like this guy and am kinda seeing him! He sed its jus fun for him and wants to hav sex. My mate alex whos also his mate says if i hav sex with him then it may lead to something more. Im a virgin and people say ur 1st time is a big thing and sum say its not. Ive been dumped in the past for being one so i dunno wot to do now. Thats why im turning to all u guys out there for help?
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don't lose your virginity just for the fun of it, make sure the guy is worth it and that you're ready, it doesn't sound like you're ready and this guy doesn't sound worthy of it
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i think i am ready, i want to do it, i kno it will hurt a bit and thats really wot im worried about. But im jus wonderin if it will lead newhere. i think it will and i want to get it over and done with asap as i wud like to start havin a sexual realationship with people
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lead anywhere? what do you mean by that? if he says he's just in it for the fun of it then he's not the right guy, sex needs to be taken seriously
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In reply to:i think it will and i want to get it over and done with asap as i wud like to start havin a sexual realationship with people You make it sound like sex is a chore when you say "get it over and done with" Your first time should be special, and with someone you love. It shouldn't be a task. Don't do something you'll regret later. And if you have sex with this guy just so you can say you're not a virgin anymore, you will regret it later. There's nothing wrong with being a virgin, and only you can know that you're still a virgin - its no one else's business and as long as you don't tell anyone, they won't know if you're a virgin or not.
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Maybe I'm just an old softy, but I personally believe that sex should be reserved as the ultimate expression of love. Since it doesn't sound like you love this guy, I wouldn't say that you should do anything of that nature with him. Naturally it's up to you, but keep in mind that virginity is only something you have once; after you lose it, you cannot get it back. I mean, I'm a virgin myself, and yes, it might be nice to become sexually active, but I'm saving myself for someone who I think truly deserves it and could appreciate that what I'm doing is for them and them alone. I just think it makes things more special that way. *shrugs* In the end it is completely your choice, but in my humble opinion I think you should wait. At least think long and hard before you go and do something you may regret.
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yeah i agree with all of you it shud be something special and deep down thats wot i want ive been spking to this guy today and thats all hes interested in it seems. Im gona wait!!! Thankyou so much for all your help. Now cud someone tell how to give a bj?
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People I know don't care if they are having sex for love or lust. Some have sex because they believe it is fun. Others wait until they are in a relationship.
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Yes but im talking about having sex for the first time ever, after that can be between two lovers or two people who want fun, as i belieave sex is fun, no matter who it is between. I hope that makes sense.
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I don't think you should have sex at a young age. You won't be with this guy forever so why lose your virginity to him.
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In reply to: You won't be with this guy forever so why lose your virginity to him. Because sex feels good
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masturbating can feel just as goodI find that many young people these days are having sex because their friends are doing the same. Sure they may be doing it for fun and pleasure as well. But it's also a competition.
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In reply to: masturbating can feel just as good No it can't
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we're all entitled to our opinions
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I'd say (in a good ol' Jerry Springer fashion), "Dump this zeero, and get yo'self a heero".He's just keeping you dangling, saying it's for fun, but wants the opportunity to have sex. He's keeping his options open for sexual encounters with other girls by saying "Oh, it's just for fun, we'll have sex, but as I said it's just for fun I'm allowed to have sex with others".His friend seems just as bad. I think his mate is telling you that it may lead to something else just so his mate can take advantage of you. Steer clear, and save this special occasion for someone that cares about you. Once you lose your virginity it's gone, don't worry about others around you having sex either, don't feel pressured. If those around you are sensible you'll have more respect from them for actually respecting yourself.