okay, theres this guy who hates me because i pushed him as a joke and he took it seriously. hes my best friend's other best friend, and for a while this guy wasnt talking to me which i was fine with. then he started making fun of me in an argument. see, in the first 3 years of high school, im about 4 and a half years through, i was a loser. i had few friends and i made social mistakes like you wouldnt believe, e.g wearing sunglasses in school which i got bullied for. i was a huge geek for the first 3 years, but things began to perk up in this year. i have more friends, even though i dont talk to them much anymore, and im a lot more attractive, and girls are taking an interest in me. i thought i was doing good. i mean, sure, im not the most popular guy, im still kind of a geek, etc, but im aware of it and was as happy as possible given all the things wrong with my life. but this guy took me down by a lot of pegs. he said stuff like im still as much of a loser as i was earlier in my school life, and also this thing happened when i went to berlin with my school where i annoyed a bunch of my friends and they didnt talk to me all week, and he brought that up. im so depressed now, i feel like such a loser. i hate my life. please help.
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Horribly depressed now
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Well first off, the thinking you are a loser is not helping. How are you determining that you are a loser?
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It does feel horrible to be told things like that, especially when the insults are built on something that has some truth in it, like the Berlin trip. Then the thrusts really wound and leave you in agony on the ground.You are not the person you were a couple of years ago, though even then I suspect you were a decent person. You are someone I respect.
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thats just carp.i hate bullies. ur early teen years especially r when it hurts the most. this kinda behaveour from this guy is just imature and purely to see u get upset, and possibly 2 make him feel better bout himself. i gotta wonder what issues that kinda guy had going on that he feels he needs to defend himself like that. by pushing him, he oviously felt that his status at school ( heirachys r just a way of life im afraid) was threatened and he needed 2 do sumthing to regain his position.( hes looked at ur insecurities and has picked up on sumthing he may have felt would strike a chord)u havent done anything wrong here, its tolatly him being a jerk.dont play into what they want, ur not a looser and that bully is much more of a looser than u r!dont waist ur time worrying about it, best thing 2 do probably is not let him see its had an effect of u and brush it off so HE looks like a looser AND a bully!