Why can't we tell our parents?

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Those of you who are depressed know what i mean. A lot of depressed people don't feel like they can tell their parents for some reason or another. It is just awkward.So my question is: Why do 'YOU' feel that you can't tell your parents that you are depressed and need help?

i won't tell them because they have tons of shit on their minds without me.and because i have spent 2 years pretending to be happy,so i'd have to have a long long long talk about how i can come to them for anything.then my mom would get all upset about me not coming to her because we're soooo close and then i'd feel even worse.

I can't talk to my parents at all. They don't understand a single issue which I bring forth to them, so I find myself isolating myself from them (which is probably why I turned to drugs and feel like shit all the time). I guess it's the embarasment. I can't even tell my parents about what I think of religion let alone myself...

I dont want to make my parents feel like they have failed. And I dont want them to get mad at meI subtly sometimes tell my mom how Im depressed.. she gets really worried but doesnt do anything

well i didnt tell my parents cuz i thort hey definatly had enough shit 2 deal with without that. i didnt want them 2 feel like it was their fult. im the "good" kid of the family, i feel like i have 2 live up 2 that and i cant stand 2 dissapoint my parents. im not really close 2 them in the 1st place. my mum had a friend with depression and she didnt stick by her cuz she was scared and could handle it. i was terrified that they would belive me or belittle it and say im being a drama queen and say theres nothing wrong with me. i didnt want 2 smash their little ideas of what a great happy person i was.im not a really "sharey"preson in the 1st place....im sure there were more reasons, but i just could do it!

I think part of it is that we don't want to freak them out about something being wrong with us since we don't know how they'll react. We feel that they will make it a bigger deal than it should be (although often this is because when you're depressed you're apathetic).I find that it's difficult for me to talk to my dad about things like that even though we're very open about almost everything, but my mom is much easier to approach about such topics as depression. Not only is she not quick to react to something like that, but she'll talk about it, give options, allow me to take my own courses of action. She's a doctor so I'm sure she also has plenty of experience with that. Still though, it's not the easiest thing to talk about, perhaps even more so for guys because we feel like we're exposing ourselves and we more often will tough it out or find our own solution than open up to others - even our parents.

I just don't tell my parents things. Last year my dad didn't know I had a girlfriend until a month after we had broken up. I just don't involve them in my personal life, even tho they are supposed to be a part of it. I seperate my family from my friends and both of them from me.

I never really have TOLD my parents i'm depressed, I'm afraid of their reaction, but before they have told me they are glad i'm not depressed. And like I have i guess sorta kinda told them, and their like "you can't be depressed, we're such good parents, you have everything you want"... and trying to tell them other stuff, like i think i'm amazingly fat. when i'm only 125 and 5'7'' for a girl thats not all that bad. I hate my body.i hate myself. i hate anyone who points out to me that i'm pale. "WELL NO SHIT I'VE BEEN THIS WAY SINCE I WAS BORN"

They say u can't be depressed?Wow,thats rude and ingnorant!

Well I hate to lie to my parents, actually no i dont. but I'm so used to lying i can never stop. I lie lie lie. All i ever do is lie some days.But its their fault for being so nosey

Okay...i kinda know what you mean.i lie to my parents more than most kids.but i have good reasons for it,my depression,my grades,ect.

I grew up with a similiar problem. My dad is so damn conservative, that he never stopped to think that maybe I had a mental problem growing up. Took till highschool when a teacher of mine approached him at his work. He told him I think your son has A.D.D. like me. When my dad went to the shrink with me he still didn't catch on. Now that I am all growed up, I will point things out to him and he seems to understand. Good example 2.0 GPA before meds and a 3.5 GPA after meds. You do the math.Anywho, talk to a counselor about setting you up for a visit with a psychologist. Sometimes it takes an adult to explain things to an adult. That is if were lucky and your parents aren't to narrow minded/bullheaded. Like mine!!

As a parent i would just like to say, i really feel for all you guys who can't talk to their parents.

i hate anyone who points out to me that i'm paleyer, why do ppl do that? ive got fair skin and ppl seem 2 like 2 point this out 2 me. its like "I KNOW U DICK HEAD" i generally just let them, it makes them feel good 2 b browner than sum1 else i guess.

i feel like i cant tell my parents because i feel like they just wouldnt understand. my family expects me to be perfect and if they really knew about this and knew how bad it was... they'd look down on me... so yeah

i cant tell them im depressed or bisexual because i know they wont understand ive told all my mates even on of mums friends but i cant tell my mum or my dad about it because they just wont understand

ok first of all ill tell u right now im a cutter.. 33 scars and encounting i know its not somthing to be proud about and trust me im not.... i ahet myself for it.... and i didnt wana tell my parents cause firat of all there gana take one look at me and go ur going to a shrnik and that im carzy and be all wierd around me and never trust me agian. and boy was i right. cause they found out and now i have to see a shrink and they dont trust me it suckes...the definition of love: a short pediod of time in wich u feel great inside but will eventuly lead u down to a sequence of tears, razorblades, and depression

33 scars and encounting> know its not somthing to be proud about> cause they found out and now i have to see a shrink and they dont trust me it suckes...Do you think you should wait until you have 330 scars before getting help? You were doing serious stuff (which cutting was) and hiding it from your parents. You still have the urge to cut. Do you think they should just trust you 100%?What exactly is it that sucks? If you don't want to cut, and you can't stop doing it, don't you think it's a pretty good idea to get some help?

wow,what some people are saying is the exactly oppisite of me.some a lot of people are saying they aren't close enough to their parents to talk about it,while i'm so close to my parents that i don't want to put them thru my problems.

i am fairly close to my mum but our relationship is more of a fake one. i could never tell her about cutting. i think she's either go into complete denial or just freak out. dad would be the same. since my parents are divorced, i think my dad would do the oppiste of what my mum would, just to spite her... lol!i think we cant tell them because it would give them or us a feeling of failure and, almost invasion of privacy. if you revealed that to them then lord knows what else they would want to know. they would constantly be looking into your private life and poking around to try and find out more reasons "why you're cutting", etc. that's what my parents would do anyways. i just think it would be a bad move.good question though! ~+xXSamXx+~