Ok, so I'm a 13 year old female, nearly 14. I recently started using these forums & find it is the most helpful website I've ever found. Anywho, I've been dating my boyfriend for almost a month, and it's really awkward. We used to be just friends, but were always attracted to each other. I've teased him a bit, but nothing serious. About a month ago, we started fooling around and he asked me out. I said yes, of course. We never act like a couple though. Everyone hates him because he is annoying *not to me* and I don't tell anybody I'm with him. When we see each other at school, we ignore each other til we have classes together. I'm not attached to him or anything, and if we broke up I wouldn't actually mind. Earlier this year we went out, and he treated me like shit. Anyways, 2 weeks ago we fooled around quite a lot, and that's as far as we went, and everyday he won't hang out with me because he has to leave, and I really want it to go further. I'm asking for your opinions of should I stay with him, or just become friends with benefits with him? We completely don't act like a couple and only my best friends know. Help :frowning:
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Hi Jumpy, welcome to posterhood!I'm having a bit of trouble reconciling "I'm not attached to him or anything, and if we broke up I wouldn't actually mind" with "I really want it to go further". It's not clear why you want it to go further. Is it because you enjoy the fooling around?
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Hey! To be honest I'd let him go. If you are happy to not be with him, and he treated you like shit before then is it really worth it??? I wouldn't recommend the "friend with benefits" thing at 13/14... its a bit young for something like that. I'd say wait until you find a guy thats worth your time, maybe just stay friends with this guy. Don't get yourself a label now (like easy or something) because it will stick with you forever... and you don't know why people will want to be with you. Would you really only want to date people for sex? Just something to consider!
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Yea, I reckon I'm just in it for the new experience and such. No way I'd have sex, though. Also, thanks for your guys's posts. I suppose you are right. I'll just let us drift apart..again Our 1 month anniversary is this Saturday. Shoot :3
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It's ok, I talked to him and we decided it'd be better as just friends with SLIGHT benefits. Nothing MAJOR. Anyways, I'm still going to celebrate our one month anniversary with him. Thanks everyone!
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i would say let him go, and why would you celebrate an anniversary if you are even slight FWB, that in itself shows the relationship is more
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Yea I'm over him now