We're not sexually compatible.
For the last four or five months she has not let me initiate sex. She refuses to even talk about sex. Basically, sex has to be on her terms and only on her terms. Now the most we have sex is once a month.
And when we do have sex, the focus is all on her. She will not have sex unless she's on top because she says this is the only way she can get off. But the truth is, she gets off in about three minutes when she's on top and when we used to have regular sex, I could get her off in just about any position imaginable, just not within the three-minute mark. We don't make love anymore... she just grinds me and seemingly tries to get herself off as soon as possible.
After she gets off, she immediately pushes me away, puts on her clothes and either gets on the computer or watches TV. Meanwhile, I'm feeling lonely and, to make matters worse, I didn't get any pleasure, whatsoever. I try to explain to her that sex isn't just about getting off, but as soon as a discussion leads into sex, she "doesn't want to talk about this right now." She always promises me a discussion later in the week about the subject, but then gives me the same runaround.
We used to have a very, very fiery sex life. But now I feel like less a man after countless rejections. If I begin to mention this to her the subject is usually changed or she just makes fun of me. Apparently, I'm being silly. And now we hardly ever hug or kiss anymore.
I hate to sound like a jerk, but at 23 years of age, I'm not sure I can handle a sexless relationship, even though I do love her. This is an otherwise perfect relationship. Right now, though, I am so, so unhappy in a relationship without affection. Am I just being silly?
And yes, I do know that she loves me every bit as much as I love her. I just need romance more than she does.