This bullshit makes me sick

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I was a little down about the fact I've only ever had one girlfriend, which although I still get along with I find incredibly irritating to be around for long periods of time (hence part of the reason why we broke up). Seeing you people act the way you have lately makes me glad I'm not in a relationship. I'll admit that I hardly have any experience with the opposite sex (nor the same sex if you were to interpret that wrong) when it comes to relationships, but seeing you people act this way makes me sick. Perhaps the reason I don't want a relationship is all this crap that everyone's getting down about. Life is so much simpler when you don't gamble with your emotions. Maybe I'm just afraid to take a risk, but it's shit like this I want to avoid. The bullshit I see posted here is unbelievable. I'll admit that I'm not a very strong person when faced with certain emotions. I have a hard time showing deep empathy, and it hurts. I also can't handle being treated lower than others, and it cause me to become depressed and angry towards everyone around me. I can't deal with other people trying to screw around with me, as much as I'd like to be able to say otherwise.

I think almost everyone has weaknesses that they have difficulty dealing with. What I see here is a guy who's unable to deal with his own problems and keep his anger stable and a girl who goes behind people's backs and won't stop relenting because she doesn't want to lose an argument. You two both hate to admit it, but you can't stop bitching until the other person burns for it. Jon, you're getting angry at her and everyone else who doesn't agree with your erratic and angry logic.

I know I haven't talked to you very much Jon, but it seems you've become a real ass these past few days. You were such a nice guy before, and I know you can go back to that. I had a lot of respect for you, although it's hard to see you in the same light while incident continues. Why do you choose to act like this? I know there's a nice guy somewhere in there. You've proven that countless times on these boards.

Pink, the same goes for you. I don't talk to you very often either, but you're the same way. You have been so helpful before, yet you choose to act against your good nature. Perhaps I'm targetting you unfairly because I don't know as well what you've done to fuel this as what Jon's done, but please know that I hope both of you can end this bullshit. It's fucking childish.

I don't know why I'm saying that stuff about about myself. I guess seeing this just makes me think about some of my worse memories and a bunch of things I wish I had or hadn't done and thoughts and emotions I have that I wish I didn't need to worry about.

Btw, was this board just down? That just goes to prove how much this squabble, fueled primarily by you at the moment Jon, is affecting everyone on these forums. I know you're better than that. I can understand why many of the members have given up on expecting members to reform themselves after all the crap that's happened here over time, but I know you can be better than this. You've proven it before, please prove it again.

EDIT: If this post turns into any kind of argument or flame war, please lock it immediately.

I dunno, Im in a relationship, have been in it for years.Im pretty fucking happy with too, its all about how you get along with the other person and how much the two of you trust each other, i wouldnt trade her anything.

I think that whole thing about myself came from my thoughts on not being with anyone for grad and feeling a little lonely right now. Then seeing all of this stuff that seemed to stem from online relationships and the argument that blew up from it. Another problem I seem to have is making my thoughts and emotions coherent. It all comes too fast to make sense of anything. Guess that's why I spend so much time rephrasing my point and editing my posts.

I agree with you and I do realize that I have been an ass for the past few days. I am sorry for that, and yes it is just these past well weeks, for me, have been rough. Like I have said I taken steps backwards and now I plan on proceeding forwards on a positive note with my chin held high.

oo i dont know about your emotional deal but yeah it was getting a little annoying,and i guess we handle things differently Jon,you get angry when life gives you lemons, me i squirt them in my eye!

Well don't let that argument on the board sour your thoughts on relationships. Regardless on-line relationships are hard, which is the reason why, a few years ago, I told myself I'd never do that again. Now I am not saying on-line relationship cannot work, but I refuse to get hurt again as bad as I was hurt than.

I have been in a relationship over a year now with a great guy. We have a strong relationship and are nowhere as dramatic as the scene that was on here yesterday.

Keep your chin up. Everything I have seen from you Rob is that you are a great, intelligent and caring guy.

Thanks. I'm not sure where I was going exactly with that relationship stuff, and I'm not even completely sure right now how I connected those two things, but anyways...

It's good to see that things are getting back to normal. I think that perhaps I was also I little late with my post here, having missed the argument prior to yesterday and catching up on what's been happening in the community forum last night. Sorry if I started beating the issue after it already began to resolve.

being in a relationship is over-rated.being single is pretty shitty 2 actually.....

In reply to: Jon,you get angry when life gives you lemons, me i squirt them in my eye! My advice...If life gives you lemons, shut up and eat your damned lemons!Stop global whining!!!

hahahaHows it going bud? Be sure to let us know...

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Hey Damien Glad to see ya back hun! Always great to see a FRIENDLY face around here :grin:

Bullshit.
sometimes when my girls onher period if i whine enough she gives in and gives me a blow job or 5 over the week that she refuses to have sex.

In reply to:I see that you've learned that whining accomplishes nothing Hell, I learned that years ago...about the same time I was figuring out the difference between whining and objecting.

In reply to: Another problem I seem to have is making my thoughts and emotions coherent. It all comes too fast to make sense of anything. Guess that's why I spend so much time rephrasing my point and editing my posts. I can always connect and 'hear' exactly what you're saying RobBob, and I often agree with what you're saying. I think you've got a pretty damned good head on your shoulders. Sure you may want to change a few things but that's life, everyone does. We all evolve and change throughout our lives. Live is a lesson in itself, and I love it, I love learning throughout it.As for relationships, I can understand when you say life is much simpler when you don't play with your emotions. It's true to an extent, but you need to 'play with your emotions' and 'feel the water' to get the full benefits of a relationship. Sure there will be hard times, but adjust and evolve with a relationship and the end result is that you reap the rewards of wonderful feelings and emotions with someone that you love.To get that result though there will always be pain along the way - failed relationships, arguments, loves lost and the like. Don't be afraid though, we'll have our time. And don't rush love, if you go looking you never seem to find it. If it's meant to be it'll come to you when you least expect it!Everything we do in live involves some risk. You need to take a few (calculated!) risks here and there for any gain.I'm just out of a ~5 year relationship. It sucks in many, many ways, but then I'm free to do a whole lot of things that I wasn't able to whilst in the relationship. I'm outdoors kayaking, riding, camping, rock climbing, shooting etc all weekend... things I couldn't do in the relationship. As much as I love doing all of this I still long to find and share love again.Good luck buddy see you on the boards!