Not Physically attracted?

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Well, I don't know what's wrong. I really like my girlfriends personality and stuff, but i'm not finding myself physically attracted to her.... what should i do?

If the attraction is not there, it's not going to work in the long run. Better to get out now and let both of you more on.

Sdp and No1 are right, too bad but it wont work. It would be a shame to get a hot chick warm you up before digging into your gf.

The thing is, we're really good friends, and i don't want to ruin it..

Well, if I did tell her, I wouldn't just say "I'm not attracted to you" I'd most likely say "look, I think we should just stay friends" or something along those lines...

Just tell her that you like her but you really see the two of you as being more friends than anything else. When you are telling her, make sure that you really do want to be frineds and that you're not saying it to prevent hurting her feelings.

I don't know...i'm just really confused about the whole situation...I want to be friends, but I don't know if I want more than that

You two are better off friends. Better to break up now than let it draw out, then your wasting her time and yours. I've met a few girls that had great personalities that meshed well with me, but I didn't find them that physically attractive. My rule is if you're young then move on from this situation.

vintage, the bigger question you need to ask yourself is how did you start dating if you're not sexually attracted to her. It sounds like you're not being honest with this friend, and are finally being honest with yourself. Maybe you're too scared to date someone you're sexually attracted to. Maybe you want to hide your sexual orientation--and maybe she's OK with this. Please be kind to yourself through your soul searching.

In reply to: the bigger question you need to ask yourself is how did you start dating if you're not sexually attracted to her. I've dated a girl I wasn't physically attracted to, but our personalities meshed well. That was the first time I was faced with such a dilema, so I thought I'd give it a shot. Long story short, it didn't work out and ended in a good way. Eventually, the physical attraction thing got to me and I broke it off on good terms.

How wold I "break it off on good terms" though?

Well, that depends on your situation. I was honestly able to break it off on good terms by telling her that we were at different stages in our lives and that I could see myself hurting her in the future because of it and I couldn't let that happen. Her initial reaction was get pissed off, but after thinking about it she realized I was right. I think a good breakup is rare, it takes two mature people who can agree on the reason for breaking up.

this happend 2 my friend. she liked him but wasnt really attracted 2 him but she kinda thort she was or must be...any way, 1 1/2 yrs and the loss of their virginitis later, she dumped him, he was crushed and bacame a stalker.lol

Ok, well I gave it a lot of thought. I'm going to stay together with her. I'm somewhat physically attracted. It's not like, "eww i'm not attracted at all", more like "she's pretty cute" type of thing. Hopefully that made some sense.She has basically told me that I need to make more moves arm around her, etc etc) And I'm a little bit curious about that...

Its probably because she can sense that you arent attracted to her.

Maybe she wants a physical, non-sexual relationship with you.

I would suggest not exactly telling her "I'm not attracted to you" because hot damn that would make me feel ugly. Maybe start it off with "we need to talk", put your hand around her neck and bring her close and just say "I don't think this relationship is going to work-out to good, but I want to stay friends with you of course. I know I sound like an asshole and I would understand if you don't want to talk to me for a while."Then let her put in her input, comment (NICELY!)Then hug and let you guys be on your way.