last year i met a guy and couldnt stop thinking about him for about three months and when nothing happened after the couple times i saw him after that i decided to "get over" him. i think i just like blocked him from my memory/ thoughts, but it worked and i moved on and really started to enjoy my life. then about 4 months after we met i was talking to my friend who knows him and she said that the day after we met my brother threatened him or something of that nature, and from what my brother had told me, he didnt like this boy at all. it didnt really bother me at the moment. but in december my mom was driving me to an appointment and we almost ran him over when he was j-walking by my house and i started thinking of him again. and last week my brother brought him over with a couple of his other friends, and we all hung out. the boy said he remembered me but i played it off like i didnt remember him so that my brother wouldnt get mad. we talked a bit and since then i havent been able to get him out of my head. like at all. im crying almost everyday for reasons im not really sure of. i havent been able to smile, or laugh really, except when i think of him, and its just really effecting my life. and i really have no idea what to do, ive never liked anyone like this before, and i just want to go back to the way i was living. but i also dont want to go back to being normal and then see him again and have everything messed up again. sorry for the novel.. i really have no idea whats going on with myself lately and im not sure if its depression or what.
Not sure if this goes here..
It's not depression, it's a crush. Can you tell your brother to back off and get out of the way? If so, I think the best thing would be to go out with the guy (if you can arrange it) and get to know him better, and either you'll like him more or you'll get over him naturally.
I don’t recommend seeing your brother’s friend at all. It will cause upset and animosity between you and your brother and other family members especially if it’s his best friend.
This is currently happening in this house and I’m tired of all of the drama and stress this has caused within the family.
It is really tough when so many others feelings are at stake other than just yours and his.
I don’t recommend it at all! Stay clear of him and the drama.
Im with you Roc, the only thing you can do worse than that is to fuck your friends mom.
I speak from experience, its been about 15 years since we last talked, and I took a healthy ass beating that I probally deserved besides the fact.
Let's agree to respect each others views, no matter how wrong yours may be.
Quote:from what my brother had told me, he didnt like this boy at all
Either emmacoval's brother was lying about his friend, or the boy wasn't his friend at the time, and emmacoval's brother just takes it on himself to screen her boyfriends - and if the guy in question is now one of his friends, he doesn't seem competent at it. Either way I don't think much of the brother.
If siblings' friends are off-limits, a lot of current marriages would be invalid.
[Edit: corrected a misplaced apostrophe, mea culpa.]
Quote:If sibling's friends are off-limits, a lot of current marriages would be invalid.
Exactly, just look at Chandler and Monica!
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yeah i dont know what my brothers deal is
we dont talk that much
and we arent that close,
when we all hung out it was like a very rare thing and we havent talked since
i think my brother does a lot of stuff just to spite me
but if i did go out with the guy it probly would be safest not to tell my brother..
Well, you don't talk to your brother much, so why would you tell him?
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i wouldnt tell him
or any of my family, its weird to me
but where we live everyone knows my brother
i even went to a different school than he did and A LOT of people there know him too
someone would tell him if we did go out
so i dont think going out with him is an option..
but it took me forever to get over him last time
it just frustrates me
I think it isn't right for families to rule your future life. It's not the function of families, and where it happens the result is usually bad.
i agree with ineligible, obviously
my brother and this boy arent best friends