Alright, I have decided, I have to break up with my girlfriend. I know I have to do it to her face...but like is there any particular way? like, ask to talk alone for a minute, or just up and say 'were through'? also, I know this girl is madly in love with me, like to the point where when/if I do it, it will just ruin her...i mean i feel really bad about doing it, but this girl just drives me nuts!!! this situation is all my fault, for letting the relationship go on as long as it did, but now its time for me to finally do it....so i guess my question is, for anyone whose been in this kinda situation, how did you do it? like, what did you have going through your mind when you told her it was over? I guess you could say I have a soft spot for a crying girl...so yeah, thats gonna be hard...
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How do I do it?
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If you think that she is gonna cry and be compltely distraught by this, then I suggest doing it in her house, or somewhere near it. You have to be nice about it, make sure she knows that you put some serious thought into it but don't let her get confused, make sure she knows its over.Last time I did it, I think what was going through my mind was "Oh shit, why did I just do that?" which is why a year later, I'm back with her.
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If you think that she is gonna cry and be compltely distraught by this, then I suggest doing it in her house
y in her house tho?
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So she isn't balling her eyes out in public and have to make her own way home with tears running down her face.
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good point...i just gotta practice this really good, and, idk, for anyone whos had a breakup go like that, girl crying her eyes out while youre doing it, what was going through your mind while you were telling her it was over?
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Do it the cheap easy way!...E-Mail!
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LOL. well she did ask me out on aim.....hmmmm...
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Exactly! Internet is evil now, ironicly i got dumped over the email! Damn you email!! damn you to hell!!
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lol ive gotten dumped over the phone tho that was after someone told me that was what she had just said of course she made no effort to mention it to me,i wonder if i wasnt there at the time what she would have done.....
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wow...i am sorry for you. email...damn. thats cold.
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ur gf told her friends she dumped you and then dumped you over the phone? that sucks.
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It was cold. Like for the love of Steve Vai thats not we suffred to make email for! Sigh it was hurtfull, actually dont dump her over the email it is terrible pain...i kept that email ever since for 4. Dont judge me!
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well no see i met her across the street and had a friend over there,went there one day and he friend was talkin to her and she told her not really intending for her to tell me but she did,and it didnt hurt that much i knew it was coming eventually im have espn or something
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I've been dumped by text before. That was pretty shit. It was while I was away on holiday and we'd been chatting on the phone loads and I thought everything was fine, then he just texted me and said he didn't think it was working. Then he didn't call or text me again for the rest of the hol and wouldn't pick up when I tried to call him, and I wasn't even doing stalkery calling! We've barely spoken since, it would have been so much better if he'd done it face to face, at least then I would have gotten a proper explanation and might have been able to get over him faster. Moral of the story, not by text!! Anyway, yeah, be nice. Tell her you don't think it's working out and explain why. Don't just say it and leave. Don't say you're thinking about breaking up and then leave it a few day, cos that'll just confuse her and if you then decide not to the relationship will never be the same. If you don't think it's working, she might be getting that feeling too and understand.
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Yea breaking up by anyway except for face to face is gutless. If you decide to do it be firm about it, state why clearly and leave it at that.
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In reply to: If you don't think it's working, she might be getting that feeling too and understand. yea.....about that...in her mind its a little more than just "working out". did ya catch the part where i said "madly in love"? lol. um yeah, thats whats making it so hard, she can kinda sense that I'm thinking about it, because shes constantly saying "dont leave me please..." all that stuff...stuff like that just makes me feel really guilty for doing it edit: oh yeah, and a little update...proms gonna be in a few dys, my last day of school(WOOHOOO!!!!!) is tomorrow, and she has just turned into this...bitch. shes in a perpetual bad moodover the whole me graduating thing, and whenever shes in a bad mood, it gets taken out on me...grr...i will be so glad to leave all this fucking drama behind. that is one thing i wont miss at all.
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If you don't do it face to face you are a complete pussy. Be a real man.
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Just be open, honest and tell her in a calming manner. Its best to comfort her and be a nice guy about it and say that you valued the time you had together, but its time for you to move on. Its best to tell her why you are breaking up, because most people who are rejected are usually given very vague reasons and end up becoming neurotic over everything, "is it me, is it my looks etc...". Just be honest and on her level and even though she will still take it hard, atleast you've done it with some class.
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im not planning on breaking up with her over instant messenger or anything like that. i would do it face to face.
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excuse me for the dead thread revival but i find this funny....she just broke up with me on instant messenger. it solves my problem, but i still find it quite ironic...
