my boyfriend is extremelyyyyyyyyyyy jelous... he freaks out whenever i hang out...talk... or pretty much ANYTHING with other guys!!! but yet he talks to mulitple girls on the phone evrynight after he gets off the phone with me! incluing his X who he had sex with and went out with for almost 2 years. i feel a unconfortable with him talking to girls (especailly his x) everynight on the phone since he has such a big prolbem with me even talking to guys in general, so i confronted him about calling his x everynight and told him that i didnt like him calling her beucase he was being hipocriptal since he's been saying that i coulnt do anything with other guys... so he said that he wouldnt call her anymore and he understood... but then i herd from the girl that he was STILL calling her and he told her NOT her not to tell ME that he was still calling her! so i confronted him about that and he was apthetic and apolgized, and i forgave him. but then...i herd that he called her AGAIN! so i confronted him about it and he told me that the only reason that he called her was to tell her that he COULDNT call her anymore... do u think that this was jsut an excuse to tlk to her.. or he's telling me the truth?
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Truth or not?
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Sounds like he was trying to call her again, You already tried to ask him nicely yet he did not, Relationships are ment to be built of trust, sadly i think you guys dont have it. My friend and his girlfriend had the same problem, they didn't know what to do 2 months later they broke it of, i asked them why its because they didn't trust each other enough. And thats how i learnt about trust...
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How long did he wait to go out with you after splitting with his ex if I may ask?Calling someone just to say you cnat call them is a bit silly so I'm not sure I believee him, though he must see now that hes going to keep getting caught out so I imagine if he has a brain he will stop. Does he have a brain? Its a shame he acts so hypocritically aswell.
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thats what i told him too... that he lost my trust and with out trust we cant be n a relationship. but i recently went on a break with him and we both had a reallyy hard time without eachother... he stopped eating and everything... it was a night mare, so we got back togherther... i really do love him and we have been going out for almost 6 months... but i for all i know he could be cheating on me... he did last time we went out, but i took him back....
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He cheated on you before and he calls his ex all the time? I myself would ever trust someone again affter cheating. If you forgive them for it I think it only makes them feel they can get away with it.
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well here what happened.... last year they went out, and we and him were best friends... then they went on a break and we became even closer. then they broke up and we went out about a month later... after about 2 or 3 months or going out with him... i found out that he asked another girl out... which was horrible beucase i had never gotten cheated on before... now a year later... were going out again and he's close with his 1st X... how do i know that he's not cheating on me again like before... i didnt know when he was last time...
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If hes cheating on you, then you deserve better! If he cannot trust you that you can talk to guys with out actually flirting then sadly he does not sounds like a good boyfriend. I admit i was very jealous about my girlfriend talking to guys and she was about me talking to girls but we talked to each other normally and we then extended that relationship for months sadly it didn't work out. You do what you think is necessary.
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I'm sorry I dont believe the fellow can be trusted atall from all that yoou have said. Theres no way to know for sure that he is cheating right now, but isnt it enough that hes done it once?
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it sounds rediciuous i know, going out with him again... but he's so sweet and a really good boyfriend. and everytime that i say somthing about the past (him cheating on me ) he gets really upset and says "thats in the past and its never going to happen again, i was young and innmature... i love u so much i couldnt hurt you liek that ever again."
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In what sense is he a really good boyfriend? I dont think its worth being with anyone you cnat trust. it will only mean you are continuously wqorrying about him being faithful. You shoudlnt have to feel that stress.
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the thing is... i know the girl (the x) who he's been tlaking to every night... and i dont think that she would do that to me (let him cheat on me with her)..... beucase in the past we have been extremely close friends.... i also dont think that he would cheat on me again beucase i know that everyone (i mean like EVERYONE, his family, my friends, even his friends) would flip out on him bc they all know how close we are
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Are you guys really tights; as in always hangout with each other, go to places etc. at school and such.
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Okay then. Ask yourself two simple questions. only you can answer this, noone elses view matters.Do you trsut him? Do you feel you have to worry about his remaining faithful? If you cnat answer yes to both then you are going to feel alot of anxiety and pain no matter what your bf does.
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he's a really good boyfriend cuz he always will bring me little teddy bear and tell me he loves me and stuff and he's jsut really devoted and stuff.... he's by far the best boyfriend i ever had... i jsut dont know if its for real... or if its going to be a replay of last year when he cheated on me... also to make the truth/cheating prolbem even worse... we are going to diffrent schools next year.. so we will have no idea what the other will be doing... exept be said that he will have "eyes" all around my school watching to make sure i dont do anything with other guys
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yeah we are really tight... we see eachother at school everyday... are with eachother alot of the time there, he walks me to my classes...etc. and we try to be togerher as much as we can on the weekends... even though it doesnt always work out, but even if it doesnt we still will talk on the phone everynight for at least an hour...
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How old are you guys?
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14----->> 8th grade.
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Oh so you guys get highschool next year, 9er :stuck_out_tongue_winking_eye: sry anyway in high school you will get to expand more on relationships. try seeing how it goes from there if you guys still last! *hopefully*
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You've displayed your anxiety. Your suffering as a result of this relationship. It is thus going to be damaging for you.
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yeahhh.. high schoool ehhhhh! im scaredd!! but when i first thought about us going to diffrent schools for highschool... i thought that it would be weird to have a boyfriend at a diffrent school going INTO highschool beucase im going to a HUGE highschool with alot of new people and ALOT of new guys! so i was planning on most likey breaking up with him at the end of summer so i wouldnt be tied down going into high school... but i enevr expected us to get so serious... so not im having second thoughts about the whole breaking up with him going into high school thing and im just prolbay guna do what you said.. wait it out and just see how it goes!! :smirk: