I don't want to sound like the rebellious kids but my parents are out of control. More specifically my dad. I love my parents to death and I'm glad for all they've done for me but I'm tired of waiting for them to notice me. It's not fair. I understand that having 5 children can be kind of difficult although 5 is not that hard to keep track of. But I still feel so neglected and forgotten. My sister and brother are both 23 and I have a brother who's 21 and yes they are in college and graduating but they come to this stupid house every single day. You have your own house! Your own fiances and wives! Go away you old people. It's my time for some attention. At least that's what I'm thinking. But I just don't get noticed. My dad and I don't really have as much of a "close" relationship as we used to or at all. Even though I'm 15 I don't mind him calling me "daddy's little girl" every now and then like he used to. I'm just some kid that happens to live in the house. He's a hardworker, yes, with computers and his clients or whatever but still. He's always too busy with his clients or working on a computer or at a business meeting. And at night when he's sort of kind of free he's outside smoking a cigarette or working on the car. When I was younger he used to drag all four of us, before my little bro was born, to the garage to go meet "the guys" and work on the 50 million cars (though that lotus was realllllllllllllly nice when I was younger) but now it's like "here's 50 bucks go get yourself a new pair of shoes". Thanks dad that's nice but I don't care. And yes I've tried talking to him but all I get is a "sorry can't talk now, busy" HE'S ALWAYS BUSY! I swear I'm going to break that stupid phone. Even on my birthday, our dinner was interrupted by a phone call and he had to go uptown "for a while". For a while my foot! He didn't come back till 4am. UGH! He's just ugh forget it. And to top it all off he treats my brothers better. I know men get along with their sons better but come on. I'm so sick of it and him.
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Fatherhood
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Abbs I found that if you keep looking for parents acceptance you are going to be let down, and it will get worse. I understand it is hard and it is awful that he is doing that, but you are going to just have to ignore him or try and get him to pay attention. Other than that just have to go on and understand that it is his fault, but always be open to him be the bigger person. I am not sure what else can be offered.
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yeah but I don't want to give up so quickly for fear of harboring resentment.
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no do not give up. Just go on and do not expect too much, and just try now and then to get to take to him.
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easier said than done
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I know it is not, I have been through it.
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I got a buddy thats nearly 60, he still clamours for his fathers approval. never had a good relationship with him either and no matter how succesful he is (and he is plenty) he isnt good enough for his dad. the shit never ends, be happy with who you are and dont ignore your parents, dont hate them, just dont live for them.