So This Past Sunday Some Close Friends Of My Family Came to visit us after about 7 months,They have three girls,and i've had a crush on the oldest daughter which is now 17 since i was 13,so when they get to my house i find out shes 6months pregnant,when i saw her my heart just crushed,i felt so bad,but i couldnt let anyone see it,so i just congratulated her,later on her dad came up to me an said "i know how u feel rite now,an i know u've liked jessica for a longtime,and between us.->cont
^cont. I Wish That U were The Father" that just tore me up inside more so now im mad at myself for not letting her know how i felt when i first met her,should i tell now? or just forget about her and wat we could have had? couse now that i do think about it,i do wish i could be the father,but i dnt wana disstroy her relationship wit the father of her baby!.any advice?
I don't think that you should jeopardise her relationship with her current partner. It would be unfair to her, her partner and their child.
What her father wants isn't always what's best for her. What she really needs is to be happy, and if she's happy in her current relationship then I think you, and her father should stay out!
If it's on the rocks for her you might consider telling her how you feel (if you're willing to take on a baby as your own - be serious here. If you're looking for a relationship with her it means you'll need to accept all of her, including her baby). If you love her, you'll want her to be happy. If she has that now, then the best thing for you to do is move on, and mark this down as experience.
Let this be a lesson, for you, but for other members here that ask about asking a girl/boy out. Just do it, don't hold back your emotions, otherwise you might find yourself in a similar situation.
Good luck, I hope it is sorted out well.
Ur totally right,i care about her so much that i dnt wana mess anything up! or lose our friendship,now her being happy wit this other guy?,i dnt know,i just asked if he steped up to the plate and is taking responsabilaty,and she yes,but i just cant believe shes pregnant! it hurts real bad.
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Yes I can understand - I've been in similar situations before and I'll never let it happen again.
The thing to remember is... if you feel something for someone (and they're not attached), it doesn't hurt to simply let them know your feelings. Just convey your feelings, if they're up for it - great! If not, you need to cop it on the chin and move on (it's hard - but you can't win 'em all!).
At least then, at times like this, you'll know that it could never be.