Still no girlfriend

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im 16, almost 17, and i had never had a girlfriend or a first kiss, i have some friends or associates that are girls. also i still have some childhood friends that are girls but they moved away so i only see them like 3 tiems a year. I think the problem is im to cautious and have very little self-confidence. Im not shoy when it comes to girls i dont like but am around one's i do. The fact that i have'nt had a girlfriend yet takes away all confidence because maybe im a loser or just plain ugly. Its not that im to stupid, i do pretty well in school, and play many sports, also i respect girls alot and never try to be a "player". My question is, do girls sometimes ask guys out or is it only that guys ask girls out because many times i feel like im just not good enough. another thing i might add is that i go to a school where the majority of the students are really bad, like i guess u can say the school is in the "ghetto"

I was in the same boat as you. Now I have passed that stage.What you have to ask yourself is what is making you so low in self-esteems. Once you know that if its bothering you so much you can do something about it.I am the same age as you. And there is nothing wrong with not having a GF or kissing anyone. Its just people being annoying arses, saying, "I did this/her". Believe me, the majority of this is all bollocks.I also respect girls a lot. But at the end of the day if you don't ask them, all you have to say is "you wanna get a drink/go to the cinema some time", you won't ever get anywhere. You have to ask yourself what you have to lose. If you get turned down and people take the pi$$ out of you. Well, so what. You have tried. And one-day you will pull someone that that cnut who laughed at you thinks is hot.In an answer to your question, girls do ask guys out. But rarely. They are concerned they will be labeled a slut or something. My girlfriend asked me out. And I was just like you. You just have to think "bollocks to this" and just do it.Hope this was some help.And good luck to you buddy!Mr. Nuts

maybe before you have a girlfriend you need to get a little self confidence. girls dont want a guy who is always upset and thinks he is the worst person in the world, girls go for the confidant sure of himself guy. I am sure you arent a loser or just plain ugly. i have a friend who is 18 almost 19 years old and he hasnt had a girlfriend or a kiss either. his problem is a little different then yours, because he is completly shallow. but my point is, you arent alone. and yes girls ask guys out, but just coming from me i prefer when guys ask me out. maybe is is just all of my girly notions of romance. but i dont know try flirting with a girl and getting to know her. then maybe something will come out of it.

thank you for your replys, i will try to encourage myself to ask a girl this summer.

You shouldn't need to feel obliged or pressured to get a girlfriend or get intimate with anyone. You are still young and even though your hormones are running wild and telling you to get on with it, you shouldn't worry too much. There are lots of people who haven't had girlfriends at your age and I have friends who are over 20 and still had no luck. On a further note, if you act like you're desperate you will get nowhere, so its best to not look for love (or whatever you want?), because it usually occurs when you least expect it or when you're not looking. Many times I've gone to a nightclub with my mates and said "Let's pick up a chick tonight!", I'm never successful, but when I just go out for a good time, a girl will approach me.

all of the above is great advice

you need self confidence.
pretend to be confident with who you are, flirt, but don't go overboard and appear cocky.

i started to pretend i was confident, -just to give it a go. and after a while, it comes naturally and i do believe it. i am confident with who i am now

and i was 20 before i got my first real girlfriend!

im in the same boat , but personally i find a realtionship earliler may have been odd , i mean do relationships at 12-14 acutlaly mean anything or are they just look guys im with a girl type thing, and yeah its all about self esstem, ill tell you what , ill ask a girl out this summer if you do lol

i have the same thing.

Just make a lot of girl friends, that way when you think you like one of them, they will already know you. Just my $.02.

Just live your life man, don't try so hard to get a girlfriend, it'll come naturally. This kind of "Must have a girlfriend" attitude just makes it harder. You just gotta stay cool and go with the flow

yea dont try hard to get a girlfriend you can live life much easier without having to worry about that lolThis is coming from someone who isnt single.

buddy, i was in the exact same boat as you man. i felt like shit about myself, then i found a really nice girl and got together with her. we had a GREAT relationship for 2 years straight, saw eye to eye on EVERYTHING and didnt have a SINGLE fight, we made plans to get married, we decided where we would move together when we were older, and we picked out names for our future kids. life was great. then she left me for a much older guy that she met online and i was devastated. what im saying is, you need to have self confidence BEFORE you get into a relationship, and dont let the relationship be the thing that GIVES you the self confidence, because trust me man, when the relationship fails your self confidence will crash so far that its almost earth shattering unless you already have it before the relationship.good luck to you in life.

That sounds awful Subnormal, are you ok man?