The reason i ask this question is my mother has always told me that the verbal and physical abuse that i recieved from her never really was abuse. i know that this my seem a strange question to ask, but imagine being told it never actually happened. Though i know that it happens i dont know whether it is wat one would call abuse?! and whether it is normall for families to behave like this? Because my mother was horrifically beaten by my grandfather, she always compares it to the abuse she suffered! she doesnt hit me anymore because i am the same size as her now but as a child she used to.The earliest memory i have was when i was five and we had double glazing put in our house and i mucked it up and as you would expect my mum was angry and that night she came in my room with a knife and starting stabbing my pillow. I know now that she wasnt trying to kill me but scare me but when your five years old you dont know any different. After every fight it was never spoken of again! and i began to get to the point where i wasnt sure whether id just imagined it or not! she also used have periods when i wasnt included in the family she would say " i only have three children now" and my whole family would ignor for weeks even my dad would and when she would feel like ending it she would come up with food and chocolates and everyone would start speecking to me again and it wasnt spoken of again! i JUST NEED to know whether this is normal?
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Can someone help me with closure?
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No its definitely NOT normal hon.....how on earth have you coped with that kind of abuse, and yes it is abuse no matter what your mother says to try and make it less serious.
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I have to agree with Angel. That is far from normal and I could never imagine growing up in a home like that. What your mother did to you was abuse, regardless if it was "less abuse" she received as a child, it's still ABUSE. There is never an excuse to belittle or mentally or physically abuse a child... it's unacceptable.
I hope now that you are older you can see what she did to you was very wrong and know it's something you don't have to carry with you forever.
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That definitely counts as horrible emotional abuse. It would cause a lot of damage to anyone, to grow up with that.
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Im sorry to hear that, yes it is physical and verbal abuse. If the abuse gets handed down generation to generation, you can break the chain. Just realize that what she has done is not acceptable and your dad should know better too. Ignoring your child for a week is insane, given that you didnt steal a car or kill the beloved family pet.
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That sounds absolutely dreadful behaviour on your family's part. How anyone could treat a child like that I can't understand.
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that night she came in my room with a knife and starting stabbing my pillow
That is insane behavior. That woman must have some mental issues..
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I'm so sorry that your family treatedv u like that. How old r u now?