Telling him to change

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i wouldnt know,i know i dont like shaving,and what does he do in his spare time?

well I rarely shave, I simply dont like to, the first ime in months I shaved was to goto a wedding last saturday, its not my look and personality, its aht I hate to fucking shave and did it daily for 15 years to wear a respirator for work, now I dont have to and rarely do.as for lazy, whats he do with his time ? does he do anything physical ? just watch tv or is he reading ? does he do alot of physical work ? or is he always laying about doing nothing ?does he bitch when he has to walk from the couch to the bathroom ? I think its easy to say if hes lazy, look at his motivation for sitting, if hes tired and resting up from workign like a dog all week, thats one thing, if he sits on his ass all the time and doesnt ike tomove, hes lazy. The only excuse for always sitting is to be in a wheel chair.I was taught from a early age that to be of any worth, you have to contribute, I work all the time, the yard, the house, helping family withthier shit, and I do alot of backpacking and rock climbing and shit, I do it ecause I enjoy it its fun and it great to get outside and see the sights and breath the air.when Im on my ass its because iM tired, not because Im lazy, think about WHY hes on his ass.

I didn't mean by BF personally, I was asking how one can evaluate what is a part of personality and what is just a bad habit/ whatever.

WELL.....I would still say look at the motivation behind why anyone does what they do.