I Need Help

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Ok... Yea So im in Grade 7 and almost the only kid in my class who's never had a girlfriend and im really shy around girls (there are a couple that i talk to) and I Dont know how to talk to a girl without embarasing myself. help please.InsaneClown

First, don't feel you have to have a girlfriend. It's not compulsory at all. The most important thing is to be confident in yourself, and not need a relationship to give you confidence. When you are confident in yourself it will become much easier to get a girlfriend - indeed, girls may seek you out.Talking to girls is easier if you forget they are girls and treat them as people. Talk about school, what you like and don't like, what you'll do over summer, music . . . But don't forget especially to ask her about what she likes, what she is interested in, what her family is like. Most people like talking about themselves to someone who is interested and listening with serious attention.

yea but when i try to talk to the hotter girls i cant focus where im supposed to (if you know what i mean)and i HATE school... I Dont know any other girl who hates school... I'd Have Nothing in common with a girl... I Like Shooting,Blowing Stuff Up (Videogames) (shooting in both r/l and V.Games) So What? Try and find a topic we both enjoy? and anyways i will never get a gf... im ugly... Trust me on that one...

I'm not sure I can trust you on ugliness. Many guys and girls think they are ugly when they are not. Furthermore, ugly guys often get the good-looking women, or so it seems.It's important to have some similarity in personality (not necessarily interests) for a relationship (or friendship) work, but to talk, even that isn't necessary. All you have to do is ask questions and be a good listener to the answers.

There Is Absolutely No Joke if we were alloud to post pics and i had a digi cam I'd show you..

Don't forget, also, that your looks are going to change. Some guys look a lot better in late teens than they ever did before.

yea i know. i'll be 13 in a couple months. might try changing then. x) be myself till then then slowly become a better,more talkative person. x)

It takes time to understand girl code. First thing you need to do is understand what girls like and do do that you can carry a decent conversation with them. You have to get into thier head so to speak. If you get a chance to talk to a girl who seems out of your league, find out what are into beforehand. And pretend to like it.

The whole blowing stuff up and shooting stuff sounds a little iffy. I can't think of to many people that would be interested in things like that, specially woman. I am not saying you should change for society. All those things just sound a little immature to me. I was really in to that stuff to around 13 and I just did a complete 180 in my life.

I Said The Shooting/Blowing Up stuff was in videogames... Fuck. And When I Do Shoot irl its at targets not people... And Yes Im Immature most of the time

I think it's pretty normal for someone you age to be interested in things like video games. But it's helpful to have other interests as well. In any case, most conversations are small talk. You can talk about school, teachers, friends, the weather, what a pain your parents are, what you did on vacation, etc.Haven't you seen people talking basically about nothing, on and on? It's a good skill to cultivate. I had a friend in college who was a master of it, and he knew most of the girls on campus.Then there are the issues of body language and self-confidence...

Yea I know.

SteveA: That reminds me of this book that is just coming out, I think it's called "Bad things make you Good" or something similar. That says why videogames (not first-person shooters) are actually good for you and how they can make you intelligent. But that's for games like Civilation 4 and Sims. The writer thinks that the newly released game Spore will change the way kids think.