i have been with my bf for 3 years now. im 19.i love him but ive been doubting us for a while lately. We are very differnt from eachother. we are the same age.....i work andgo to college... he does nothing. he is all punk... im normal. hes shy....im not. he has no friends ....i have a ton. However we are bestest of best friends. i have been forcing him to change for me lately....he doesnt want to...noe i feel like if u dont change that means u dont love me....i knw its impossible for me to leave him because hes my best friend...ive tried it before...i broke up with him because i though i was with him because i felt bad for him.... but i found out i culdnt be without him i needed him ( i dunno if maybe im just too used to him ) well im feeling that feeling again....like im with him cuz he has no freinds and if i leave him hell be alone....i dunno i cinfused myself.....
Welcome to A2A, cutieTATZ! You can't change people's personalities. I think "if u dont change that means u dont love me" is unfair. You have to decide if you want him as he is (and he has to decide the same of you).
Agree, you will not change him. Going out with him for pity is real sad, when he finds that out, its going to make his self esteem worse than it is already. Maybe break up with him again if he doesnt want a job or go to school. He sounds like a loser that wants to do nothing but have people pity the fact that hes a bum.
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If your relationship with him ended he may actualy realise he needs to go out and get a life. The current situation cant be easy on you.
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Going out with him for pity is real sad, when he finds that out, its going to make his self esteem worse than it is already.
exactly.thats why i broke up with my ex girlfriend.she asked me out cause she felt sorry for me.it crushed what was left of my self esteem.
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