Want To Break Them Up

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Ok,

I have been dating this guy for about four months and I like him, but I've always had this HUGE crush on this other guy since I was a sophomore. Bad thing is that they are friends, both on the football team, and my BF wants to join the fraternity he's in.
I don't really see the guy on campus that much, but I've always held out hope that we'd run into each other and start something up. And when he found out that my BF was dating me, he was telling him that I was very attractive and how lucky he was.
Now that the guy has a GF, it is driving me CRAZY!!! I think about them together and get upset. I think about it all the time and I've even seriously entertained the thought of trying to take him away from her, but I know I'm not an evil person and couldnt do that to someone, because I wouldnt want someone to do it to me. What can I do to stop getting this upset and being jealous?

You know what...nevermind...it's a lost cause.

I'm not sure how you can stop from feeling jealous, but you might want to consider breaking up with your boyfriend. It doesn't sound like that relationship is working for you.Is he the one who had the reputation you were concerned about?

Yes he was, and he has proven to be a very good BF to me. And I feel awful. How can I be a good GF if I'm upset over some other guy I never really talked to in the first and I dont know much about? I didn't care until I found out he had a GF. Only now am I unhappy. i dont think I should break up with him if I can't be with the guy I want to be with. It's stupid I know. I was whining about not finding anyone who will treat me right and here I am crying about wanting to be with someone else. Im an idiot.

i dont think I should break up with him if I can't be with the guy I want to be with.It's not like you can use logic to convice yourself why your boyfriend is the guy you should be with...it's an emotional thing.If I were your boyfriend and I found out that you were staying with me out of desperation (i.e., you can't get the other guy), I wouldn't be too happy. Since you care about him, do you think it's the best thing for him to be in that situation?

well let me see if i can help well ur should most likely break up with your bf because it seems like your hurtin him more than u would by going out wit him and your bf best friends has always been a rule dat u cant or shouldnt go out with them and since he has a girlfriend leave it be trust me there are plenty of more guys and crushes usually lead to failure always a fantansy so the jealousy will go away eventualli

I understand. I feel everything I've been saying and feeling is coming from a place of jealousy. I just dont feel rational anymore. I was fine with my BF until the other guy got a GF. I want to say that my BF is very good to me and I care about him and I could just be going thru the motions. I'm not with him out of desperation. I don't want to throw everything away on a whim, but I feel so strongly about this...