Hi all, first post. But I have liked this girl for a while and saw her at a graduation party two weeks ago. We hit it off very well and I ended up getting her phone number. The next day I called her but she didnt answer, which wasnt a big deal b/c I was going to see her the next day at another party. So the party came along and me her and several other people were really wasted. She was really drunk and started hanging on my friends and shit, but would eventually return back to me. I was drunk and frustrated so I made a horrible decision and drove home drunk(really regret doing that). Two days later she called and apologized for getting so drunk and acting that way and than invited me to her friends house to have a fire. I was with several friends and they all tagged along. Once again we hit it off good. So before I left I told her and her friend that me and my buddy wanted to go mini golfing before her friend went on vacation. They seemed excited. So since than Ive called her twice on 2 separate occasions. The second time I left a message.So, I pretty sure the attraction is mutual, she is just playing hard to get. I dont know how to counter that, any advice...
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How to counter "playing hard to get"
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wow u got lots of help ...
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this kind of thing always confuses me, whether its playing hard to get myself or countering it. i have no idea how to do either,but shes obviously interested in you. Pursue things, but dont come across as eager. Basically, you want to make it clear that you like her back, and want to go out with her, but you wouldnt really care if she said no. By doing this you'll assert yourself as the kind of guy who can get girls easily, and so one rejection wouldnt be much of a loss to you. Whether or not this is true or not is irrelevant, its all about putting this in her head. Once she thinks that about you, she will be more suggestive, and show that she likes you more clearly. Then its just a matter of asking her.I dont claim to be one of those 'dating experts' or anything and i might sound a little pretentious, but try it. its better than being all eager.
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Those girls seem to always be playing hard to get with SOMETHING, even after you actually get them. Either that or they're hiding their extreme neediness. If you don't like playing her game (which actually can be fun if you've got patience and don't really care about her too much), I say forget her unless you like either of those two possibilities (always being difficult or being extremely needy).Playing along with the game would come naturally if you didn't care so much about her. But since it doesn't come naturally, and since it doesn't seem fun to you, don't you think you should find someone who is on the same page?I don't know. That's just what I'm thinking.
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Well I cant speak for her, but when I used to play hard to get it was to test a guys resolve. Sometimes its hard to tell if a guy really wants to get to know you, or if he just wants sex. Any guy who is just looking for some quick ass wont bother calling me, and calling me and leaving me messages. The guy who persued me, was most likely the guy who actually was interested in getting to know me.
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wow, I actually gained alot more advice than I thought I would...thanks. I keep you guys updated I guess?