Want to see psychiatrist

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im constantly having severe mood swings, my appetite is on the fritz, and im getting increasingly depressed. i get constant urges to hurt myself and ive thought about taking my life, like standing on a chair with something around my neck and kind of thinking about it. I chicken out though. I really wanna see a psychiatrist but my mom wont take me seriously. Im scared. Im on the verge of a breakdown and every time i go in the kitchen a little part of me tells me to cut my wrists. I dont know what to do. How can i convince her?

ur moms not gonna wanna belive that ur messed up cuz that would sumhow b her admitting to being a bad parent (tho im sure shes not), i donno how old u r but, presumeing ur a tenn, teenages r rairly taken seriously about these thing and its just brushed off as "moodyness" and "just a phase".if u wanna seek help DO IT. do u have a school conceller or an adlut friend u can talk 2? ur mom may belive u more if its from sum1 else.dont give up, keep trying or atleast tell sum1 who will try for u!

i have a counseller, but shes a christian charity volunteer. i want a real shrink.my mum practically had a breakdown. my fault,she came downstairs to yell at me for watching a DVD at 1 30 amand i told her it would be over soon and id wake up with plenty of time to do my homework,eventually i said 'i wanna die' or something that she took to be melodrama,so i said 'i hope you die too. i hope you get cancer.' and 'goodnight bitch' as she left the room,that last remark did it and she came back in,and stood over me, and started kind of gigglingand trying to bite meso i grabbed her forearms to stop her, and eventually gripped them and chucked her on to the sofa to stop her,and after a while she apologized and is trying to pass it off as a one off incident caused by tiredness. im worried though^extract from msn convo with friendi think i gave her a breakdown i know i should NEVER say anything so unfeeling and cruel and i didnt mean it but still, the way she reacted, i dont think ill ever forget that. im really worried now.

No you didn't give her a breakdown, she was just REALLY angry, and so she should be.Hon if i told my son to turn off the TV at that time of night - not that he would be watching at that time of night - and i got that response, i would have flipped my lid! Your mom was right it was melodrama, i mean come on, you wanna die just cos she told you to turn off the TV!!!!I know as a teen, things tend to be 2500% worse than ever at any time in your life, parents are just horrible jailers who get on your case all the time and don't understand a single word you say or how you think or whats important etc etc...........but you said you hadn't done your homework and would have to be up early to do it, why didn't you do it earlier in the evening and then you could relax and your mom woudln't have been so much on your case.Teens blame their parents for everything these days, and to be honest, its the hardest fucking job in the world............SHE knows how important your education is, SHE knows being up till the early hours watching DVDs, not sleeping etc isn't going to be good for you and tiredness can lead to lack of concentration, out of character behaviour and depression..............Im sure your mom isn't a perfect parent, and you arn't a perfect son, but next time try and put yourself in her shoes, and the melodrama has to stop - oh, and what you said to your mom was about THE most hurtful thing you could ever say to a mother, if i were you i would be a man and apologise for what you said, it was disgusting, and certainly unwarranted and out of proportion in the context of the argument.

you have every right to be mad and disappointed, angelwitch, as i can see you are. and im not trying to excuse my behavior, not by any means. But, i didnt say i wanna die because she made me turn off the tv, i said it after a lengthy argument about my relationship with my dad, who died, that was started by the TV thing. and its the way she acted that scared me. I know i was WAY out of line, but this isnt an 'omg my mom is so mean she makes me go to bed at 1am' this is more of a 'i think im going insane and my mom wont take it seriously' sort of thing...but yeah you're right angelwitch, i had no right to act that way towards my mom. i feel horrible about it. she forgave me though.

**Darlin, i'm not mad or disappointed, and if i were, it wouldn't matter i'm not your mom.

You both sound like you are going through so much, and its just overflowing into your relationships with eachother and the slightest thing is setting it off. I agree you need to talk to someone, but it doesn't necessarily have to be a shrink, it maybe you just need to talk to anyone, and I would love to help by listening if I could, oh and please call me Angel, for tis my name :smile:

I didn't mean the post to come off angry hon, and im sorry if it did, I guess i could only wonder how i would feel if one of my sons said the same thing to me...........it would hurt, and im really happy to hear your mom has forgiven you, that shows how much she really loves you. Sometimes so much is happening in peoples lives that they can't stop to take a breath and appreciate the people who love them and who they love. Is it totally out of the question for you and your mom to spend a day out together, just enjoying being with eachother, or go and put flowers somewhere for your dad together, and maybe have a picnic...........

There isn't a magic word that will make it all go away unfortunatly, but as i said Im here if you need some random stranger to have a bitch at *big cuddles* xx **

Your mother's response of giggling and trying to bite your arm is strange. I don't know her at all, but it may be that she is very stressed too. You haven't given her a breakdown, but perhaps she was already on the verge of one. She may not have been able to sleep because of the TV being on.

I think you really hurt your mom with how you responded to her... angel's post is 175% accurate.. regret every little thing i put my mom through when I was growing up.. it was so hard to see my mom cry.. and i saw her cry so much.. I was really depressed.. and I sent her an email telling her how I felt.. at first she replied and was angry.. but then she replied and was really upset and wanted me to get any help I needed.. Any mother would try to protect her child.. tell her.. she will get you the help you need.

i know that my mom cared enough about me that when i actually felt really depressed she finally took me to the doctor. it took a while for me and her to realize what was going on. because i was a senior in high school at the time my parents for the most part attributed it to senioritist and didnt really think it was depression. just sit down and talk with your mom and tell her you need to talk to her seriously and heart to heart and if she cant respect that then she... then just keep bugging her to take you to the doctor. eventually she'll get tired enough your bugging her and she'll just take you to the doctor so youll stop annoying her so much. but definitely get to a doctor as soon as possible. the longer you let it go the worse it will get and the more it will take to get it all back together again.

she has arranged a docs appointment this wednseday...wish me luck!

Good luck! I hope it will be helpful.

That is good news...good luck!

thats great to hear dude. im glad she finally got an appointment for you. but dont freak out about your appointment they are just laid back appointments.

Good luck hon cuddle

well actually its a doctor, who if he thinks i need help will get me a psychiatrist.what if i say something wrong and he thinks im faking it? everyone tells me its just hormones and my sister even said 'if you think you're depressed that means you're not' but i mean, i sink to incredibly horrible lows and then become neutral and then anger and happiness in the most random ways, and its never a relief going from depression to happiness because i know it wont last.

Your family members are by no means experts in human behavior or depression. There are depressed people. They're not faking in. Doctors see them all the time.