My girlfriend and I have been dating for almost a year. At first we couldn't be apart from each other. She is my first girlfriend, so I am very attached to her. I don't know if it's just cuz it's my first or because I geniunely love her. I think I do.
Anyway, lately it seems as though she wants to get away. But she's not willing to step up and break up. It's now getting to me. Things started getting rocky a few weeks ago when her sister told her I might be an alcoholic, and that she should look for someone else. Then a few days later she gets a call from her mom telling her she should break up with me because <insert random problem with me here>.
I found out one day when I went to her house and she was crying on teh phone with her mom. That's when she told me. I don't like her family anyway, so I didn't really care that they don't like me. But she had been acting weird, and trying to avoid me all week. After talking about it, everything finally seemed to be back to normal. Or so I thought..
Ever since then she's been seeming distant. She seems like she just doesn't care anymore. Where she would call me all the time, now it's rare that she calls me. She used to end all our phone conversations with "I love you", but I don't hear that anymore. The last straw came when I called her one night to tell her goodnight, I said I just got home and was going to bed. Her response was "ok..." I had called to say goodnight, but ended up just telling her I'd talk to her tomorrow. The next day I told her how I felt and how I feel she's pushing me away. I told her if she's not happy, to tell me and stop leading me on so I can get on with my life. She started crying and said she didn't want to discuss it (we were at work).
This weekend was even worse...
I set aside my friends, to spend time with her. She was supposed to go camping this weekend, but that didn't come through, so instead of hanging out, she told her sister she would baby sit for her. I call her, no answer. I called her again a few hours later. Still nothing. She calls me 2 hours later. She saw she missed a call but didn't call me back.
Today I called her, no answer. Called her again, she answers and said she didnt' know I called earlier. She was supposed to have lunch with a guy friend, I told her I didn't want her to go, but she decided go to anyway. Her lunch plans didn't pan out, so they became dinner plans. Then she gets mad because I told her I was going to go out instead of just sitting here waiting for her. She gets upset that I"m acting weird. She calls me later and says her and her friend had to drop off his cousin, and that they wouldn't be home for an hour after she had said before. WHAT THE HELL!?
I think what bothered me the most is he's a guy and she really wanted to hang out with him. Why? She knows I don't like her going out with other guys, but she does it anyway. She asks me if I'm ok with it, and it doesn't matter because she does it anyway.
I've been getting more and more paranoid about her cheating on me. Last night I was going to drive by her house just to make sure she wasn't there doing thing she shouldn't be doing.
Today I feel like doing it again.
I don't know what to do. Should I continue seeing her? Should I break up with her? How can I pull myself away from her? I don't want to her hurt, but it seems like she doesn't care. Could it be she's just bored with me? She knows how I feel, but she does it anyway, is it a sign she doesn't care?
Should I break up with her....
In my opinion, you should try talking to her. Tell her it's really important and you don't know what to do. When you talk to her, tell her exactly how you feel. How your afraid she is cheating on you and how she seems so distant. Maybe there's something going on that could have nothing to do with you. And if she really seems like she 'doesn't care' or if she gets mad, you really should consider breaking up with her. I mean if she can't talk to you, what's the point? Trust me, take it from someone whose been there before. I know this may not have been the nswer you wanted to hear, but I hope it helps. Good luck!
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Dump the skanky ass ho. She doesnt love you, she loves fooling around on you thats it. She can't commit to one man.
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I agree with ninja sword dump her shes messing around with you and it doesnt seem the relationship is going anywhere.
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