How do i become lust free?

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I'm trying to acompish something but i'm not exactly sure how to do it. Now i have stopped masturbating for 3-5 day's so far. I want to stop all togeather. The problem is now i'm having dreams about nothing but sex which is very disapointing. Why is this, here's the reason. - My inhibitions are strong enough i can keep from pointing out other people's differences, i know how much it hurts when people do it to me, i'm never doing it to anyone else- I can do what a teacher tells me to, once, when she leaves the room i know she doesn't know what i'm doing and i could do something wrong and get away with it. But i dont, no one in my class can do that- I'm the only one in my class who doesn't curseNow i could go on. I'm not superior to these kids, i have my own problems which i'm trying to fix. But that has nothing to do with health issues. But as i was saying, alot of kids, especially the boy's love talking about sex. Well, more accuratly, the boy's like to talk about sex but the girls just like to listen. I get angry at both groups for that but i see it as hypocritical because i enjoy listening to it as well, most likely because it turns me on. I dont ever want sex to be a reason to form a relationship with a girl, who i hope will be funny and who enjoy's science and history as well as politics as much as i do. I want to be able to say a long time from now that i've havn't masturbated for many years, i never have erotic thoughts or dreams, and i never wish to dispite the pleasure that it gives. If your saying this is impossible, i disagree. Sexuality and fetishes are an evolutionary trait, means of survival. Human specie are smart enough to be able to overcome evolutionary traits which no longer suit them to live more advanced lifes, such as hunting and gathering.

well i supose that sucks for me. I dont Want to want to masturbate or any of that stuff. I'm sure there's a way to live a life like that without depression or sex. Cause honistly the only time i was the way i described was the day's before and after i tried to kill mehself. As you can tell my attempt phailed (failed)

If you're really serious, and if you're spiritual, there are monstaries, if that's what you're into.

Frankly I think you would be better served if, maybe with the help of some counseling, you could figure out why you feel so inhibited.

Swashbuckler, welcome to A2A. You remind me of myself at one time. The other students in my class weren't as undisciplined as they seem to be in your class, but my problem was that I didn't understand them or care about them. I wonder if there's some of that with you. You seem determined to put a big gulf betweeen you and the other students, and I don't think that is healthy. I don't mean you shouldn't be yourself and do what seems right; but you should also try to understand the other people in your class: understand them and not judge. That was my failing, and it took a long time for me to learn better.

I'm not as spiritual as you might think i am. I'm a christian but i dont perform any of the mortal pratices (Thing's that man invented and called holy, which i why i think it's balogny) such as going to church or serving as an alter server. once i tried to join the rock choir as a cello player but i keep trying and they keep, not responding what-so-ever.

And if the reason for the relationship gf-bf break up is strictly private reasons and not a social ploy, then it's clear if they cant stay in a relationship for more than 6 months atleast, they dont deserve to have sex.

Here's another story, some of the kids in my class said that They had sex/ blow jobs before even kissing or hugging their 'so called partner'

I want to consider this wrong, but i feel alot more inclined to do so when i'm in a state where i have no sexual desire what so ever which includes dreams and masturbating.

Why i want to ailienate myself from them is rather simple, now acording to my religon i have to love them, which when i think that over almost scares me. but i cant respect how they spit in the faces of their teachers. Here's a classic example

7th grade heath: The teachers virtually begged the students to remain abstient until 18 when they have reached a level of maturity.

8th grade:

by the end of 8th grade 6 in 9 kids had said that they already lost their virginity in a relationship which they broke up 2 day's after.

I cant respect a person who enter's a relationship just to bang them, and then leave the relationship to look for another prey.

Do you take the non-sexual proscriptions of your religion as deeply and seriously as the ones involving sexual behavior? Are you upset that your classmates are also not feeding the hungry and so on?

i dont care that they arn't feeing the poor. as i said i'm not a practicing christian. i supose you'd have to see them in the act, the insubordination is what annoys me. I feel like a hypocrit to call it wrong for them to be having sex at the ages of 12-13 but me myself masturbating, which is why i stoped 6 day's ago.

I haven't read any of the responses. There are a lot of good ones. My two cents. Meditation has worked for me.

I'm not a psychologist, but it sounds like you're suffering from an obsessive disorder, which may be related to depression (in a neurochemical way). Your feelings are making you unhappy, and you might greatly benefit from seeking out counseling. You don't want to wind up sitting in your room all day, eating doritos and playing video games, for the rest of your life.

Yes i do have depression. And i am taking pills for it. However i dont suffer from the depression symptoms that i used to AE: Tiredness, Grumpiness, Contepmt, rage, and a horny rating of 0. Well luckily i'm not engorging myself with unhealthy foods as you describe, since, or course, lol i had them locked away. (I didn't phsyically but i begged my mom to do it, the psycologist agreed)Maybe i could tell you a story you would understandon the last day of biology class, which was 2 wednesday's ago. I was invited to go to a pizza palour with a few other bio students, it wasn't really exclusive or anything, everyone was invited, but only a few came, about 9 or so. Now in school i'm not a loser, i do have my speculated social problems such as the fact that i rub and pull on my eyebrows but that's another issue. Now the fact that i'm not considered a loser is important not just for my personal dignity but also because i feel you were leaning twards that as a reason for me being the way i am. Infact the boy's but mostly girls enjoy having me around because i have a dry sense of humor which none of them have to my degree (sorry for bragging, i'll make it up in the next sentence) and because i like to sing and dance in a redicuoulous fassion. ( a mix of broad way and micheal jackson)I had told them that i had a crush on a girl in school, and that much was true but i didn't want them to know because if i did i worried that would put the girl i liked in danger of humiliation, perhaps because i might be a multiple ladies man but i dont think any of them know how i would treat a girl if i was on a date, as well, they're all pretty asured i have no intrest in sexual activies with her or anyone. So i told them that day who it was, it was a girl named cathleen and they asked a pretty honest, yet embarrasing question"So do you want to get into her pants"Oviously i said no but of course the honest truth is that i probably do. Why? because i'm a human being who is, unfortunatly naturally turned on by girls and sexual activity bla bla bla. Ok, here's the thing, as i said, i asume that deep down i really do, quote ' want to get into her pants' but i dont want, to want to get into her pants which is what i am trying to acheive in this thread. Sorry i bragged and contradicted myself way to much...

All people are complex mixtures of feelings, wants and aspirations, some opposing each other. It's OK, it's the way we are made. Don't be contemptuous of yourself - or others - for being human.

I dont hate myself for having those feelings, i only want it to change. If i dont think i have the power to do so what's to stop me from going into Male mind control mode.

We don't have much control over our feelings, but we do have control over our actions. It's the same for all of us. We're all seething hormones inside.

> However i dont suffer from the depression symptoms that i used to...

> Now in school i'm not a loser... i feel you were leaning twards that as a reason for me being the way i am.

> the fact that i rub and pull on my eyebrows

Bingo. That's what I'm talking about. I was in no way implying that you are a loser. I am implying that you seem to have obsessive thoughts, and an obsessive-compulsive disorder (such astrichotillomania) points in that direction. OCD is biochemically on the spectrum of depression, and is often successfully treated with antidepressant medication.

The problem with things like depression and OCDs is that they can lead to isolation over time. If you keep getting wrapped around the axle over other people's behavior, that's not good. You obsess over sex, but seem to be repelled by it. That's not good either. The issue is, how do you have a happy and fulfilling life in the long term?

:-/ I just figured that there was a simple way to end having dirty thoughts rather then either giving into them or resisting them, and feeling guilty about it either way. however, i dont try to isolate myself from all of my peers. Actually i'm very confortable hanging out with the kids in my sister's grade (Usually when my sister isn't around because when she is she get's angry when i talk to/look at 'her freinds' My sister's freind invited me to her freind, danny's birthday at a resturaunt. Dispite the fact that the service was terrible because waiters dont care about giving childeren service. I had a good time, and talked alot with them. Part of the reason i enjoyed talking with them is because they didn't talk about sex as much as my grade does. infact most of them dont curse alot either, well they do, but they dont use the sexual terms like dick, cock, cum, and all the other trigger words. Sometimes i wish that i was part of my sisters grade, not to hang around my sister (because often times i dont like being around her when she's in her moods) but because the kids in her grade seem alot nicer.

I just figured that there was a simple way to end having dirty thoughtsIf you can think of a simple way to suppress a primal drive (sex, hunger, sex, and sex among them), then you'll surely win a prize. If someone thought about some arbitrary thing as often as most guys think about sex, that person would be considered obsessive about that thing. You're fighting an uphill battle. Frankly, I'm not sure what's so wrong with it. I'm still baffled why you think it is.Those kids will get older, and they will be just like your contemporaries. Once they start becoming aware of their sexuality and sex drive, that's the way it is, at least in the West. Even in sexually repressive countries, people can't climb out of their own heads, and they still have sexual thoughts.Spending the rest of your life hanging out with young children is not a good solution. Your current mind set will not lead to happiness in the long run. That's what I meant about becoming isolated as you get older.Even though your depression is under control, you should really discuss your feeling with your doctor. Any type of obsessive or compulsive behavior needs to be mentioned.

In reply to:If your saying this is impossible, i disagree. sorry,as a teen and young adult,its immpossible.