I am new to AFTA so here it goes.
There is this girl that I know who I used to go to school with..I have now moved awa </font color> y to another country (Spain) but we still talk a lot over MSN.
We are very good friends, we tell each other everything...we know each other so well. After talking to her over MSN for a few months we started talking about sex and stuff like that...then we started doing "text sex" over MSN.
When I go back to England in a few weeks we were orignally going to meet up and have sex as we knew each other so well. (I am a virgin and she is aswell)
But last night after she went to a party, she had this guy telling her how special she was to him and how he respected her but I am worried as this other guy I know sleeps around and has sex with people for the sake of it...
I then talk to her today and she says she is not prepared to do anything with me..I am under the strong impression that she thinks I want her just for sex...but the thing is I don't..not at all..she is the most special person to me and I care for her a lot...more than what I can say in words.
This other guy I can tell that he doesn't like her the way I do and just wants her for sex. The opposite to me.
I'm worried she will be dragged in and will regret it big-time....I wanted to have sex with her because I love her...not because she was an "achievement" to me.
We spoke after and agreed that we were just going to be friends again...not anything more....I don't know what to do......should I warn her??? I am just really worried for her and I am scared she got the really wrong impression about me.
I just feel completely devastated over this...I've never cared for somebody as much as I do for her...
Just so you know I am 14 and she is 15. I live in Spain (but visit UK frequently) and she (Chloe) lives in England.
Shes most likely wierded out by the fact that you guys "text sexxed", as you called it. Her willingness to do so with you and to flirt around the subject of actually doing so in real life obviously shows that she did like you though.
Experiencing something online, such as flirting around the subject of having sex, is definitely a different experience than if it were to happen in real life. She may just be wierded out by the thought of actually having sex now, and theres nothing you can do to change her mind. Only she can change her mind, and she may do so when she actually sees you in real life.
You most likely shouldnt bring up the whole text sex thing with her, as shes obviously trying to, or already has put it behind her. Just be confident and look at your trip as new oppurtunity, and not as the trial of whether what is rightous will happen or not.
She may just be unsure of whether she likes you or not, and the best thing to do is to not get preoccupied with whats going to happen. Dont overwhelm her with talk about the subject, and just remember to go up there with confidence, and act accordingly. Girls like confidence, and it would definitely look good on your part to not let any of this change you, and to be your normal self up there. Just put the bad things behind you and act as you normally would.
Well I know what you mean you really cared about her, but she problaly feels like that you only want sex so talk to her and tell her what you feel. If you say you love her than tell her thats something you can't keep from her.
If you know that this guy is no good for her than tell her. If she does get the wrong impression talk to her and tell her your feelings if she is that close to you she will listen.
Also about sex thats always the thing is sounds all good in talk, but it is a big step for any person to take she wants to be special so if you really love her than make her special and make it special.
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