First off i'd like to explain that i m bi (guy) and that i told my friend (also a guy) that i was. Hes a nice guy and i like him but hes not gay or bi so i was wondering if i should try to change him cuz it seems kind of wrong, i wouldn't want him to change me so any thoughts on this would be nice. thx
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Changing a friend's sexuality
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no don't try to change him.that would be wrong.
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That's just as stupid as straight people trying to change homosexuals.>i was wondering if i should try to change himNo, you shouldn't. It's a daft idea, and it also wouldn't work... You'd probably just lose your friend.
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No really don't think you can change him. You can't change someone unless they want to change. It has to be their decision, not your's.
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i wouldn't want him to change meAside from the fact that it's probably not possible, didn't you answer your own question?
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Firstly - yes it's wrong for you to try to change him.
Secondly - you can't. It's instinct.I had a friend try the same on me. He wouldn't give up and I had said that if he continued that I would be forced to cut all ties with him whatsoever.
He was one of my closest friends and I did just end up cutting all contact with him. We've been in contact 7 years on, but we're certainly just plutonic friends now. He's over me obviously, but it'll certainly just ruin your relationship with him.
Let it go, and let him make his own decisions. Could you stand being with someone knowing that you forced them into it?
Sounds like a rather hollow relationship to me.
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