Hi, i want to get with this girl i think we both like each other, we have been out before and i really like her. In the previous relationship it was just fun, nothing sexual happened as we were younger. but now, a few years on, we have starting talking again and both like each other(i think). The thing is she seems more "sexual" now and im not sure if i am ready for more sexual things, if we get together how do you think i should tell her that im not ready at the moment? ..........Also how do you change your password?
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Just not ready...
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Well for starters dont do what I have done on several occasion now. Dont...wait til your ontop of each other in bed and then say "ugh..could we not do this".Other than that I dont know, sorry. Infact I'm curious to see what other people have to say, because I feel similarly to you.
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nice to see im not alone, by the way its not because im not physicly ready, its metaly-if that helps the answer
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Yes, likewise. I think I was physically ready from about 8 I must confess its a relief to see you post your question. I havnt seen too many guys come out with this stuff.
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well, tell her before you get into a situation where she thinks you're going to be doing stuff, and then letting her down. that's just mean and she'll think she's done something wrong (at least I would if it was a situation like StrapingYoungLad described). If your not ready to do stuff sexually I'm sure she'll understand and if she really likes you then she'll wait until you are ready. Don't worry about it. Just explain to her that you'd rather wait a while before doing stuff and tell her it's because you're not ready, don't make up lame excuses. :smile:
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Cheers for that answer, its helped ....i would still like to hear some other peoples views.
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Just be honest.........if she understands thats great, if she doesn't then it wasn't meant to be.