Hey Yall,I'm Havin Trouble On Getting A Gf,My Problem Is I Dnt Know How To Go Up To Them,And Talk To Them,I Mean If They Come Up To Me Its Cool,But Otherwise Im Stuck,Also Ive Never Had A Gf,So That Has Alot To Do With Me Being Clueless On Girls,Theres a Girl Ive known and liked for a long time,and Had Already gotten sum confidence to tell her how i felt ended up getting pregnant by sum jerk off,so im wondering if u guys might hav sum advice?
Don't Know How
I don't think there is a defined way to 'Get a GF'. My first girlfriend and I had an amazing relationship, and I knew absolutely nothing. Although we aren't going out anymore, we are still good friends, and I have learned so much about relationships.
First, I will tell you how to make them feel special .
Firstly, ALWAYS and I mean ALWAYS put her before you. Push their chair in for them, Ladies before Gentlemen, etc. Secondly, random gifts are awesome! Flowers, hand-made items, etc. Thirdly, always tell them how much you love them. Fourthly, be careful of their feelings. Fifthly....eh... I can't think of anymore
To get a GF, well... I have only had one GF, and I'm not planning on getting involved with a relationship ever again... but if there is a girl you like, talk to them at school (or wherever you normally see them) a bit, and hang out with them at school (or wherever) at the minimal. Then, when you think you have enough courage, ask her out somewhere! This can just be a simple 'Hey, I was wondering if you wanna come to the mall with me on Saturday.' When I say 'Ask her out somewhere', I don't mean 'Hi, I really like you. Do you wanna go out with me?' :P
If she says no, just ask her 'How come?' and see what she says. If she says yes, then turn up. The only thing I can tell you to bring to your organised 'date' is confidence.
I hope I've helped in SOME way.
I'm so all about NOT getting a gf right now, but here are some thoughts.
1. "Friends with benefits" turn into gf's a lot of the time, so if you're gonna go bang a chick, you better like her enough to be her bf.
2. However, you need to be friends with the girl. Like guys who hardly know girls and then date them-- that doesn't work out. So it makes sense to me if you spend time getting to know one another before you go around telling people you're together and stuff.
3. Dating is a pain in the ass. Why bother anyway.
Just some ideas.
Well i am currently dating a girl and it has gone 4 months so far and it is going strong, i for one am not one of the best with the ladies either and didn't know exactly where to start.
I agree with the others about becoming her friend first, just talk to her and get to know her and hang out with her at school or wherever you see her at. Now i waited almost 3 weeks to ask the girl out now that i am dating, but i think that was a little too long, so if you talk to her and become her friend and things go well try asking her out after 1 or 2 weeks. If you are having trouble talking to her, don't be scared just walk up to her and ask her whats up and how is doing, and stuff like that it is just a really easy way to get a conversation going. If things go well and you think you are ready to ask her out, i don't think there is a really an easy way to do it, you just have to do it, you can do it over the phone or on the internet or whatever, but trust me girls will like it alot more and respect you alot more if you do it to their face. Try and find a good time to do it that just seems right, a good thing to always do first is to ask how her day is going, if she says bad i would wait for another day, but if it is good then go for it.