Okay, so here is my deal. I've been dating my boyfriend for a year and a few months now. And at the beginning I told him that I didn't want a very jealous boyfriend and that I'm not really a jealous person. But I have no clue why but the past few months I have been so jealous. Today we had a conversation about it, and like I really don't want to be jealous anymore and I finally figured out what I think the reason is. My past boyfriend ( I know I shouldn't bring past relationships into current but oh well.) I dated him for two years, and finally we broke up. He treated me like absolute shit and I thought I was "in love" so I put up with it. Well he cheated on my with four different girls, nad one of them was my Best frine dat the time. We have been broken up for like two years but I just found out a few months ago that he cheated on me and who they were with from one of his/my friends. And now I guess I'm just not very trusting when it comes to guys and I'm hurt, so maybe I'm thinking that this relationship is going to turn out like that one without the abuse. I admit my boyfriend now has given me reasons to be jealous and curious. We are really good, and going strong and I guess that I am just afraid something is going to mess it up. I need to just go by the "if it happens it happens" guideline but by doing that I feel like if it does happen I never did anything to prevent it and I am almost just as guilty. So I guess what I am wondering is there anything that I can do to kind of practice not being jealous? WOw that sounds incredibly stupid.
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Jealously Issues
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There is a danger. The danger is that if this kind of thing keeps happening to you it could taint all of your future relationships...you'll end up having trust issues with every guy you're with and it'll ruin relationships...even with the guys who deserver your trust. The solution is to explain to your current boyfriend what the deal is...if he's a good guy he'll understand and go out of his way to help you feel confident. If he's not cool...well...maybe it wasn't meant to be. BUT...if he is cool and you don't tell him what's going on, it could end up being what wrecks your relationship. If you're worried about losing him, just remember that you wouldn't want to be with a guy forever that you couldn't talk to about everything anyway.
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haha go figure. On Mtv it's "True Life I'm Jealous." Yeah I totally get what you mean, and he knows about the guy cause when I found out I was obviously upset that day and he asked why and I told him. He thinks that I have insecurities and need to work on them. But seriously my only security is that I am afraid to be cheated on or run around on. uuuurrrghh lol.
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I'm tempted to ask if you're one of my exes. haha. I had a girlfriend that was really jealous. She couldn't trust me, she had a lot of insecurities, and I felt like I had to reassure her 4 times a day that I really liked her and wanted to be with her. Trust is one of the most important things in a relationship for me. She couldn't trust me because of her past boyfriends. So I just had to move on.
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haha. If you were one of my ex's you'd know, and then i'd prob. shoot you because you were a BAD BAD BAD man. Just kidding about the shooting part. But if you're a liar, chearting, and have thing with my old best friend, and are really physicallly abusive then for all i know you could be. Also Another question. Is it wrong for me to get really really annoyed when my bf talks about his ex. Like we'll be talking nabout something and I'll be like have you gone there or seen this or done that and he'll be like yeah with _____. and put her name in. In my head I'm like what the hell, why couldn't you just say yes but no you have to tell me with her. errggh...
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lol. Nope. I'm sincere, never cheated, I hate men who abuse women (I have 2 sisters that were victims of domestic violence and I'd love to hurt the guys to did it), and her best friend moved to Las Vegas.I don't think it's wrong for you to be annoyed by it. That's understandale. Just make sure you let him know that it bothers you though.