Ok im gonna tell the whole story incase u havent read my other boreds.There is this girl named Liliana that i met on final fantasy online. I live in the states she lives in canada, and we have known eachother for 3 years. We talk on the phone, msn, etc. (btw i love her with all my heart, and weve been best friends for a long time etc etc. just read my other post)Tonight alot of personal things happened, i found out she lied to me about not having a boyfriend. I do not wish to go into it. He used her to get back at me. Let me explain:He told me he was going to dump her and i could have her. So when he told her she got all sad and stuff, u know, anyone would. Of course i tried to comfort her, duh, and ya know she got all mad at me because her emotions are runnin wild tonight. He made her mad/sad just to spite ME. She didnt ever want to talk to me again but i begged her to let me call her one more time, i told her what he said to me and she says she still loved him, but yet she says she believes me. I want to prove that this guy thats her bf is an asshole who uses her, says bad things about her and doesnt deserver her. so my questions are:1. What do i tell someone who thinks they love someone like that?2. I think he used her, what do you think?3. I got her to let me call her in the mornin when things cool down, what do i tell her?4. What can i tell her to let her know im better than he is and i wouldnt hurt her? she just wont listen! i know i could treat her better!Ill ask more if needed, im not going to sleep, this is important, id like to note i just got off the phone with her. I beg you for your help, my whole friendship and maybey future relationship is on the line
-
What to say to her? Please help asap i need it!
-
HeyFirstly, why did she say she didn't want to speak to you ever again?Also, I know he doesn't seem like that much of a great guy but people fall for people that you just wouldn't expect, like I said on your other post, you can't help who you fall in love with. If I were you, don't try to come on too strong or heavy. Like you said she is angry and probably isn't liking the male race too much at the moment. Listen to her problems if she wishes to tell you, if not try not to ask to much, and just be there as a friend. And at this point in time, I wouldn't try to convince her that you're better than him, it just wouldn't sound right.She can probably see for herself that he used her, if not I wouldn't bring that up....It'll just make her feel ten times worse. Best to let her calm down a bit. Hopefully she didn't mean the whole thing about not wanting to speak to you again, she is very angry at the moment and probably just wants to figure things out in her head. As she calms down she will probably come round. .
-
I found (personally) that get that involved with problems usually leads you with the victim. It's best to keep your self kind of distant but let the girl know that you are there for support and you are willing to help her.
-
Well she said she didnt wanna talk to me again because she didnt want to lie to me anymore. I dont know if she really meant what she said or not.
-
Hmmm.... to be honest I doubt she really meant it. I'm sure she is really confused at the moment and needs some breathing space. If you're as good friends as you say you are then I think she'll come round. Now that it's over with her bf what else does she have to lie about?