God hope she doesnt find this post:P
But honestly my girlfriend of one year (who i will not break up with over this) just sucks at sex, we've talked about it and she admitted "im just not good"... we talk about everything..
Anyways like I can spend 3 hours having sex with her but I'm 90 percent of time always on top of her just making her scream and making sex amazing for her, not to be cocky but I can last really long and by the sounds of it I think im decent but Im not enjoying it, I love it when shes on top, but she gets on top and then she says "your not liking it, im not doing it this way" and she always asks me what position I want , never can she just change into a different one she asks me and gets me to do it. I almost wanna blare music so we cant hear each other?
I dunno I guess this is more of a rant then a question but what is there to do?:( What is some good things to say? She found one thing I like and thats (sorry to be specific) oral sex/balls) and im impressed but now thats ALL she does lol..
Sex is just not great with her
God hope she doesnt find this post:P
Have you ever just said, "I love it when you're on top of me, let's do that tonight"?
Or during sex have you ever just rolled on your back and made her sit straight up on you by holding under her arms?
yea dude just talk to her and tell her that is what you like and if she does not listen then don't continue, do not give in! lol.
sex is supposed to be fun. Be creative. tell her she's the cowgirl and you're the horse, and to get on for a ride. maybe she just thinks you're bored with what she does, so spice it up a bit! Hope this helps.
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if shes admited to not being very good, i think she probly doesnt have any confidence left. thats probly why shes always asking what to do.
I say try to build up her confidence and not be like im am so much better than you in bed.
Anyway if you both happy with you being on top just go with that.
She really does sound like she isn't confident enough to take the lead in trying new things, that said then if you want things to get better, and you obviously do, its down to you to help her get that confidence. Telling her how nice things are when she does them right will encourage her to do them. Suggesting different things like, sex toys, different positions will be something you have to do at first, till shes comfortable suggesting or making you do stuff also bring the fun back into the bedroom, eat food off eachother, watch porn and laugh, spend hours naked with eachother just enjoying touching etc, not necessarily having sex or doing anything sexual, just having fun. Shes obviously up for new stuff once you have tried it, so try more............and i have to say i was very uncomfortable with being on top and in control at one time, i worried if he was enjoying it, if i was doing it 'right' that will pass, but it will pass quicker if you let her know how much you do enjoy it when she does it, and other things too Good luck. </font color>
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tell her she's the cowgirl and you're the horse
I fully concur with all other posts - especially Angelwitch's extensive one.
I really think you need to take the bull by the horns here. She obviously doesn't know what you like, and unless she's a mind reader things aren't going to really improve.
You need to tell her what you like, show her what you like. Don't get to feeling that showing her a new position is a chore! It's simply communicating something that you enjoy. Move her into your favourite positions, try a few new ones. If there's one that you particularly like - let her know - let out a few yelps of passion, or kiss her ear and whisper something that lets her know you're really enjoying this.
I'm sure she would appreciate hearing how much you're enjoying a particular moment, and she'll appreciate the tip on how to get you excited next time.
Yes - try other wacky things like food, or an all over body massage that just teases the hell out of both of you before you start on foreplay and sex? How about you try it out of the bedroom (if you haven't already)?
Go find a secluded park or beach, take a picnic dinner/lunch and a bottle of wine.
Just remember that we're not mind readers, and NO PART of lovemaking should ever feel like a chore - I get the impression you're not enjoying initiating new positions - why? I get the impression you somehow despise making her scream? Hey, if you get her happy, you ought to be happy too.
That's my opinion anyway. I love giving as much as I do receiving, so whether I get off or not I still have an absolute whale of a time...