Christ. Im a 17 year old guy that has had an active masturbation rate and sexual desire for longer than i can remember. Ive been normal around girls forever and have been hooking up and fooling around for a couple of years but several nights ago we finally thought it high time to get it on. I was excited and ready for action, however i could not achieve an erection. I was awaiting the moment when my penis would get fully hard but it simply would not happen. After a long time of foreplay we thought we should get actual sex done and i couldnt get it in the girl. My dick was too soft and i was in distress. I scrambled to the computer to look for porn, i ran to the bathroom to get lotion, nothing could coax my dick to harden. We never did actually fuck but i did have a good time in other areas of sexual activity that night. Sincec then (two days) i havent felt the LEAST bit arroused off of anything. This is extremely unusual because i masturbate around 2-3 times a day. Ive been slightly depressed and am getting stomach discomforture from just thinking about my epic failure and from worrying about the future. The girl and I decided on a later date to pursue the act once more but im nervous- i usually was EASY to get a boner but not i cant succeed in the least. All i feel is emberassment and anxiety for my sex life. The combination is pure shit and i feel slightly nauseous writing this. I am (was?) an extremely horny individual and was looking forward to fucking happily but cruel fate gave me this predicament. What the hell is going on? How can a simple act of losing ones virginity after ages of masturbating and hooking up with girls cause such devestation. I just need advice. Is it purely psychological? should i investigate aphrodisiacs? Help. please. EDIT- Ok i know how the forum folk hate when people post things that have already been repeatedly brought up but im just worried beacuse it was my first time and i havent gotten an erectio since. I was at one point genuinely concerned about the alarming frequency when i would get boned and now im dying for one to relieve me of torment. Damn my overthinking mind. Im completely positive im over reacting but by fucking god i cant get it off my mind. input please.
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Depressing Erection Problems
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Relax. Relax. It's nerves.
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Hey bud, first times aren't always what we want them to be. You're nervous, anxious and really want it to be total heaven. It's actually quite common for guys to have erection problems, especially the first time. Calm down bro - being all worried and depressed about this is only going to make it worse and you'll have erection problems again. Best thing to do is to do it again....and again....and again until things work like you KNOW they do. Sexual intercourse is very different than masturbation. You and your gf or whoever is going to be the partner in this just need to talk some - work at it. Focus on her and her pleasure, forget you even have a penis man...if you don't you're gonna worry so much about it working (or not) that chances are you'll have trouble again. Remember, your penis works...it has for years so nothing is wrong there. This is totally in your head now and its up to you to get control of it....you'll be fine bro, I promise!
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thanks for the support guys, you really helped me out in my time of need. Your absoulutly right and i think of the incident somewhat humorously now the morning after. Im lucky to have found a girl that will hang with me and be understanding. I'm also lucky i came to find this forum :smirk:. thanks again mates, your words are deeply felt and appreciated- im sure i'll be back.
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this same thing happened to me.. I got a new girl and shes a virgin. the first time we tried I couldnt get hard. Man it was so embarrassing but life moves on.
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