This is my first time posting here, so here goes nothin'. I'm a girl and will be a sophomore in highschool this year. Mainly, I guess, my problem is that I'm no good at making good friends. I mean, I know a good deal of people. Other kids in my classes who I mess around with on a daily basis- in class. I just don't have any friends outside of school. I never get invited to anything and I'm never asked for my phone number. I like to think that I'm a pretty decent person. I'm a bit on the shy side, but that shouldn't affect other people approaching ME... should it? It seems like someone can be my best friend during a class, but should we even glance at each other any other time I'm a total stranger. Any ideas on how I can get people to actually associate with me? Thanks in advance for any advice!
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Social issues
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welcome to A2A!wow,that sounds exactly like me!sorry i can't really help,i was just surprised at how much that sounded like me.
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Hi fresca and welcome to A2A! I think you need to do the inviting. Invite people to do things with you. They may tend to overlook you because they don't see you as one of the "friend" group, so you need to take the first steps yourself.
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haha that sounds exactly like me too, but you have some good friends outside of class right? u just want a bit more popularity. don't wait for people to talk to you, try talking to them first
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heh, i think a lot of people have this problem.other people have already said it.ask them for their numbers and ask them to hang out with you.you just have to realize that if youre shy, theres like, probably a million other shy people too, just waiting for YOU to make the first social move.although this isnt always the case, its a huge possibility.lol in high school i remember id ask some people that i wanted to hang out with to go to the thrift store with me on monday (half off mondays are tops) and the thrift store is like a battlefield so you really bond with the person, lol.
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i can relate. it just sucks. it's hard making new friends because everyone seems to have their groups set in stone. i have a few friends but they're really not that close. man, it's too bad you, me, and silent tears don't live close by then we could all just hang out with each other and it'd be easy, lol. Anyway, i hope things out and best of luck.
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alot of ppl say don't wait for ppl to come to you. u go to them and i believe that is so true. im on the shy side as well, even i have a hard time following this, but i know you can do it.