Masturbation vs. Sex

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My bf, he's an unusual one when it comes to sex. But I'll keep it down to a basic. So, when we have sex he doesn't cum he doesn't really even stay stiff though. However when I masturbate him he cums within 5 minutes. I wanna know how do I make sex better. The weird thing is that if I just stop and change positions for like 30 seconds he'll go limp. I kinda feel like sex is dull for him or something. Oh yea, he was a virgin before he met me. Does this have to do with anxiety or something? Is there a way to keep him stiff for a long time and not go limp? he told me he's been wanking since he was 5. Maybe he's used to his hands? Does a pussy and the hand feel that much different?

Does a pussy and the hand feel that much different? Very much so. It would be well advised for him to lay off masturbating. He might be too used to the feeling.

I agree with sdp on this.Intercourse and masturbation feels completely different. I cum a lot easier from masturbation than I do from intercourse because I am used to the feeling and the grip I used when masturbating. As sdp said you might want to talk to your BF about lying off masturbating for a while until he gets used to the sensation and “grip” of vaginal intercourse.

Nothing compares to having a wet warm pussy. Masterbating requires alot of visual concentration wheras a pussy just feels better. Oral on the other hand can be just as good if not better than a pussy. I have a hard time cumming from a woman masterbating me and often can't.

I hate to suggest the obvious--well, to me, at least--but have you ever considered he might be gay and not out of the closet, yet? Or possibly not even admitting it to himself, yet?Of course, it could be something physiological, so you might suggest he see a urologist.

Hmmm. I guess. I think if I can move my hips long enough when I'm on top of him I can make him...cumm...not in me though. he stays stiff only in certain positions. We tried missionary. It doesn't work out as well. Doggy style its fine but we had a mishap once...we're still experimentingish so I'll see. I got one more question. I dunno why but when he fingers me for a long time. My pussy gets sore. If it was sex for hours, I'm still fine. His fingernails aren't long or anything but how come I get sore when he fingers me?

Bunny, I really don't know, but let me ask a question: does his fingering involve any technique, or is he just sticking it in and pulling it out with the occasional rub around the labia? If the answer to that question is "yes", I'm afraid that just feeds my first theory because it would seem he's not really interested in YOUR pleasure.

And I actually have another question: missionary position didn't work like you'd hoped, but doggy was okay, aside from the "accident"? Would that accident be that he stuck his cock up your ass unexpectedly? If your answer is yes, I think it's about time you two have a serious discussion...

well just cause he's not good at fingering doesn't make him gay...but i told him to wriggle it a bit cause it does feel good but afterwards it starts feeling sore...I think he's scratching it now..hmm I think I answered my question.

WHY DO YOU WANT MY BF TO BE GAY!!!! WAHHHHH!!!

WHAT THE FIBBERGIBBLET! I just finished reading ur post binthurdunthat.....uhhhhhhhhhh I don't know how to reply to u....

Uhm...no...just we were in a bathroom trying doggy style well more like a steam room ish. he had a cramp..lol and he started going limp..so i don't know. We did doggy style once another time he was fine but then i told him to stop cause i had to go pee....SEE LOOK WHAT U MADE ME TYPE!

And he does wanna pleasure me...heck thats the only way he stays hard....I hope he doesn't go on this website but...sigh...when we do it I kind of make some noises...that don't really mean much but to him its encouragement..

seriously. WHY DO YOU WANT HIM TO BE GAY!

And its not that missionary didn't work...it just...doesn't go all the way in cause he's like taller or my pussy is too low. We were doing it in a cramped area....so i dunno if it was us or the setting.

well doggy i think is better but ya maybe some ppl cum quicked masterbating then having sex

I don't think he's gay, I think he just has performance anxiety, and/or isn't used to the sensation of a pussy and is too used to getting off from masturbation. It's a common problem. I think you need to do more foreplay, and get him close to cumming from that before he inserts his penis in you, that way he has a better chance of reaching orgasm from being inside you, or at least cumming sooner. So masturbate him like you usually do, but make sure he tells you when he's getting close to cumming, then stop, and have him finish off inside you (with a condom on of course).

lol! lol! I like focus! I think that helps actually. I'll run with your advice. He told me he's not nervous but maybe! I can't read his mind. And yea the foreplay thing is a little short. PLus recently i'm on the pill and its been killing my libido. I think I'm gonna go off it and just use some condoms instead. Well I don't think he's been jerking off for a while. So...lets see the results in 2 weeks lol. Thanks man.

Just to clue ya in, you posted two posts to the same person 4 minutes apart. No need to do that.for upto an hour after you make a post, you can click edit and change or add to your post rather then make a new one.

I did? Oh well thanks

if the pill is killing ur libido, maybe u should let ur doctor know and a different pill might b better 4 u

Bunny, I absolutely DON'T want your bf to be gay. You asked a question and I gave you the only suggestion I had based on the info you provided. I'm not a psychic, so I have no idea what's going on.Sorry to have upset you!

this is odd because i can last a while when j/o but when i have sex, i only last mabye 10 mins or so.

my bf takes forever to cum but thats because of a physical problem, but he stays hard, best advice is to keep him turned on and horney they looooooove when girls make a lot of noise. dont just jump into it like bite his neck and play with him a little, make him want it. know what i mean? and just have fun make sure he knows your enjoying it