Over the last 7 months my girlfriend has had glandular fever. She'd been getting better but the last month or so she has been sick twice. They were just common winter colds, but it seems like they've set her back to a few weeks after getting glandular fever.Basically it seems like I'm back where I was 6 months ago. She's been very tired and extremely emotional. Sometimes she might be quite energetic but then she'll just crash and be unable to do anything.She struggles to come out and see me during the week because she's usually too tired for the drive home at night (about half an hour on the motorway). This and her being too tired to go out anywhere in the weekend is really getting to me, but I can't tell her. If I do mentioned anything to her it just makes her feel worse. She just starts crying because she thinks she's upsetting me.We had a convosation about this months ago, she insisted that I still tell her these feels but I can't bring myself to do it because she just breaks down.I don't know how you can help me... Any suggestions would be appreciated.
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I can't be upset around her
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Went thru the same shit with mine starting last November, sicker then fuck and had strep throat on top of it, she was down for a coupe weeks missig work and mostly sleeping or being sick, couldnt keep food down, hardly any liquids staying down either, it was not a good time in Chances house.It took fucking months to get all the way over it and then she was tired and weak all the time anyways, that took a few mor months to get past.I suggest she see a doc, make sure there is not something laying back and kicking her ass she isnt aware of, soe new infection or something. My girl took all the antibioticsf, she got no better, she wsa on the third course of them, all three different ones, stronger each time.I can tell you that it does get better and she will get back to normal, but its a long road to get there.Try and be understanding, kiss her ass a little, be nice, tell her shit like you want to stay in an watch a movie rather then go out, take advantage of it and spend more time withher rather then out doing shit. The worst thing that should come out of it is that you got to be together more then usual and fmaybe grew a little closer.aside from that I dont knwo what to tell ya aside from you wont be the first one to go thru it and still come out intact and together at the end of it. It is posible to do, but its nota quik thing and its a real bitch, stressig both of you out, dont let it get you down.
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It can be tricky in a situation like that. Glandular fever (mononucleosis) is a nasty disease, and your girlfriend may not be fully back to normal for another six months. In the meantime you have to look after her, and part of looking after her is accepting that she will often be weak, perhaps weaker than she thinks.
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Thanks for that Chance. I guess I just needed somewhere/someone to lay it off on. Now that I've done it here I do feel a bit better.>>I suggest she see a docI couldn't count on my hands how many times she's seen a doctor since she's been sick.>>The worst thing that should come out of it is that you got to be together more then usualUnfortunately that's not so with our travel arrangements, I try to get round there as much as I can but with my uni schedule, work and her going to bed at 8:30 I don't actually get that much time with her during the week. Weekends are a different story, I try to spend all of it with her but that's just getting harder and harder now that uni is starting to get into gear.I've gone though 6 months of this fucking sickness and I and haven't give up on her yet and I don't intend to.
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I don't know how much experience you've had with it but do you know how physical active slows the recovery? I know people from my old school who took a few months off, or just did half days for that time. She's very involved in her school's life in leadership positions and even works still (1 evening and a saturday each week). Although she ends up taking a day or two off every couple weeks she hasn't really cut down on her commitments except leaving the soccer team. As I said before she now goes to sleep around 8:30 (and gets up at 7:30) but she always wakes up incredibly tired. I know it probably just seems worse at the moment as she's been floored by a couple colds, but it looks like there's no end in sight if she keeps it up.