Picked on

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I'm 15 years old, and throughout my school life, in little bits I get picked on. Not as bad as some people but enough to annoy me. I'm not the strongest of people - strength or feeling wise, but still I can't really take it. Recently I met this new girl who lives near me and I've got to know her family as well. Her brother is just 8 or 9 years old, and yet even he can find a fault with me and take the mick outta me (although I havn't told his sister how I feel about her). He was with his friends and sister - his sister saying nothing, but he kept calling me spotty (although I don't have many spots now) and gay (not thats an offence, i got nothing wrong with gays). But the fact that hes 8 or 9 years old gets to me. What am I meant to do? If I mention it to his father or tell him how what I really think of him, it could crush the building relationship between me and his sister. I can't ignore it as they live not too far from me - so its not going to be that i'll never see him again sort of thing. Whats your opinions?

It sucks he's so young otherwise I'd suggest kicking his ass, heh. If it bothers you so much the best thing to do is go to his father and explain what's going on. If they're decent parents it'll never happen again.

When I say new girl, I mean they've lived there for years, but its only recently I met her and her brother. Her father I've known since I was about 3 or 4 years old and hes a decent parent. As for their mother i've only met he about 3 times in my lifetime. I usually see their father at least once a day, so I may just see him and explain - although, im not saying that i fancy his daughter. Ty

Hey, dude, don't go to the father. The kid is probably protective of his sister and wants to keep ALL guys away. Had it not been you who's shown interest in his sister, my guess is he'd be doing the same sort of thing to whoever it was.At this point, I'd just throw something back at him every time he goes at you....and you don't need to be cruel, you just have to be quick. After a few times of letting him know you know what he's up to and you can embarass him as easily as he can you, he'll probably get the picture.Honestly, no guy likes to think of some guy treating his sis as a piece of meat--and I'm sure that's not what you're interested in (only), but if he's close to her (and I'm guessing he is) then he's going to want to be sure you're not just in it for sex.Shut him down and you'll be fine.Best of luck!

Generally people pick on others to feel powerful by getting a reaction. If you appear to ignore his comments, or, better still, appear to be amused by them, he'll probably get tired of it. Furthermore, pretending that the comments don't hurt can, slowly, make them in fact hurt less.

Be realistic. When does ignoring ever work? If the kid has been a pain in the ass for a while let his parents take care of it.

I agree, don't tell the parents about it, you will get no respect from them. Just be dismissive of him. Say something like 'good one kid'. Just act like you don't care and assert your age superiority over him.

Thanks everyone for your opinions. I just seen him again, and tbh I laughed at him and for the fun of it chased him like half way up the back lane - just so he knows I don't care (I make a sort of joke out of it and chase him - its what most kids are after; a chase). I did on the one hand tell his one friend who had just stopped about 3 metres from me on a skate board to go up to him and slap him for me (of course, with a smile on my face) and she happily charged up the backlane. So I'm trying to make a joke outta it to keep him aware that I don't care about it and like you all said, hopfully he will get tired of it eventually.

Be cool with him right away next time you see him be like hey whats up name and you could always throw in a little gift but not somthing to make it look like your trying to bribe him like if he skates or bikes get him a magazine or somthing just try and make friends with hmi even if you dont like him act like you do