ok, im pretty much gay, and i really want to come out to my parents. but im just too afraid to. im only 14 and my birthday is in 2 weeks, and im having a bonfire with some friends over and my boyfriend is coming over... and i really want to come out by then but im just too afraid. any advice is appreciated.
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How can i come out?
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I know you don't want this type of answer, but it's all up to you. How do you think your parents will react? Have they ever mentioned their stance on gay people? Do they always show a lot of care and affection for you, even when you get in trouble? If you do decide to tell them, I wouldn't let them know who your boyfriend is (and that he's there at the party) until the next day or so. It could cause way too much commotion.
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Hmmmmm, call a family meeting and share how your feeling then lead into how you believe your into the same sex gender. let them know that they shouldn't be let down and that it's not a fault as much as it's a lifestyle. some parents are gonna freak no matter how you word it. so i would say having a contingency plan waiting wouldn't be ill-advised. but i'm strait so what do i know?! so, best of luck to ya!
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Well, I'm not trying to make light of how you feel, but my son is 12 and a half and if, in eighteen months time, he turns around and tells me he's gay I'll tell him he's far too young to know that yet. I mean, you have to get through puberty first before you can be sure of your sexual orientation. If you're still attracted to males only in, say, five years from now, then you'll know for sure that you're gay. But you said that you're "pretty much" gay; does that mean that you're sometimes attracted to females too? It could be that you'll go on to be bisexual, but where is the need to label yourself at your age?It's very common for people as young as yourself to be attracted to people of the same sex, it certainly dosent set it in stone that you will be homosexual for life.
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In reply to:my son is 12 and a half and if, in eighteen months time, he turns around and tells me he's gay I'll tell him he's far too young to know that yet.In reply to:I mean, you have to get through puberty first before you can be sure of your sexual orientation not everyone has to go through puberty before they know their orientation.and some people are sure of their orientation younger than that,and are right.
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I dont recomend it, i woudl wait till you are in atleast high school. When they could actually consider it.
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get a tshit printed thats says "to cute 2 b streight" or "homo" or "i love boys" lol
really, sumtimes ur parents could surprise you, my sisters friend was shit scared about comeing out but his parents were fine as were all his mates.
in the end, u cant go on lieing 4 eva can u?
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To be honest with you, and this is coming from a gay guy, I would hold off a few more years before saying anything to your parents. I knew I was gay when I was at your age, though truthfully I had some doubts (though looking back now the doubts weren’t doubts about my sexuality but doubts if I could handle the reaction from my family and friends if they knew I was gay). Last thing you want to do is come out now and if your parents take it negatively have them over react by taking away privileges or the right to hang out with friends etc. Unfortunately that happened to a friend of mine, it was really horrific for him. He had to sneak around just to talk and hang out with his friends and have any form of a social life. Not saying your parents wouldn’t be the opposite and be cool with everything and be supportive… unfortunately that is far and in-between.I personally found it easier to come out after high school. I was lucky and my parents, siblings and friends were all very supportive. But I know if I was in school and other people found out they would have made my life and living hell. I am sure the other “older” gay people on this site will tell you that it’s easier to wait until you are a bit older and out of school to come out to especially family.
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woah!! i would have put very simular to that , did you steal my brain for the day?
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I'm 15, and my mother found out I was bisexual by accident (I tend to write down how I feel at night and hide it, exept I forgot to hide 1 note and she found out). Before she had mentioned she disagreed with same sex marriages, and stuff, but she was 50/50 with me. She said she didn't mind me being bi, but im still too young to know that and the boy I fancied wernt old enough either. So I mean, I should imagine hopfully your parents will understand where you come from and that its your life, but really, you know your parents better than anyone else.
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if it helps any replies at all, im not that close to my family and my sister is a lesbian so im sure they are ok with it. and my sister came out about the same age i did, and i know im gay because it is a chemical thing in my head. like it got mixed up between me and my sister when we were both born.
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Thats true and I wouldnt deny it for a moment, some people DO know from a very early age, but for a large degree of people, including myself, sexual orientation wasnt clear till after puberty.I'd gotten through puberty (I was sixteen) before I had my first sexual experience with, or any kind of attraction to a woman; we stayed together for about eighteen months. I didnt have any feelings for any other women for a few years, and then it was just a brief fling. I havent had relationships with anyone other then men for more than ten years now. My point is that at fourteen you really usually cant be sure. At fourteen I never would have dreamt I'd have any sexual feelings for a woman, and now, it's been a long time since I had.I think the bottom line is that fourteen really is too young to affix a label to yourself; who is to say it'll stick for life?