i was just wondering if any of you had or have anger problems when your depressed. iv been in depression for a while now and iv always had an anger problem but recently its been getting the better of me. i tend to take it out on myself or even worse iv started drinking to cure the anger. the thing is i know its got worse since my depression which is understanable because im getting angry at being depressed (if that makes sense) so anyway just wondering if anyone is the same?
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Depression and anger
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i've definetly gotten an anger problem since my depression.
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Anger was one of the main features of my depression, and it was directed both inwardly and outwardly. Excessive drinking is an obvious response to inwardly directed anger. At least though, you are aware of it. Good on you, it took me years to cop on.I think once you're aware of it, it brings you a lot closer to being able to do something about it. I wish you all the best.
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May I ask what caused the depression? It's been pretty well documented that there are established stages of grief--not necessarily a death--and I think before I'd offer any kind of advice, I'd need to know the cause to send you in any direction.
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Yes. I used to fight a lot in highschool. It didn't help my cause that I was trained and very good at hurting the other guy. So afterwards I always felt good and almost begged for someone to try me again.I seem to have my anger under control now. In the past 4-5 years since highschool I've only had a few altercations. Kicked in a couple doors and tossed somebody through a wall. Regular exercise, work, and keeping my mind on various nice things helps. It gets hard sometimes.
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I mean no offense, but I was trying to get to the heart of crystal's issue...not that I wouldn't be willing to discuss yours as well. Just want to be sure we're talking about the right issue at the right time.
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I used to drink (and smoke up and pop pills and whatever) because I was angry that other peoploe were so damn happy. But drinking only amplifies whatever you're feeling, so I try really hard only to drink or get lit when I'm feelin good, because when you're down drinking brings you further down. I know it sounds bullshitty, but finding creative outlets foir anger is probably the only way to deal-- music or art or studying or, I don't know, like making stuff. I know that sound stupid, but drinking-- in my opinion-- can make you more angry or more depressed so you should watch it.
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Thats totally true. If a person is especially angry exersise that involves more physical endurance can release a lot of agression in a positive and constuctive way. I hillwalked 14kg off my arse that way!