I need some advise. how you guys know when its time to break up? It just seems like the last couple weeks with my bf havent been all that great. But i have been really stressed with going back to school and working. How do you know if the problems are like stress or like between 2 people.
How do you know when to break up?
There's no yardstick to determine when the time is right, other than when you decide you don't care enough for the guy to keep on seeing him. Personally, I wouldn't base things on two bad weeks, because maybe it was just two bad weeks...for both of you. Has he been going through the same kind of anxiety about returning to school as you? I don't know how old you are, but let me just say this: the likelihood is you are going to have many relationships before you find the person with whom you decide to be serious. If he's not the right person you should decide that based on things you don't like about HIM...so add up what you do like and what you don't like and go with the column that's greater. And one final thought: one of the problems I've had with women I've dated in the past was their (apparent) inability to see my side of things if we were in disagreement about something; my suggestion, then, is simple....be sure you make the effort to find out and try to understand where HE'S coming from and why. If you do and you decide you're still right, stick to your guns...if you do and decide he may be right, then say so and take your lumps.
Just my humble opinion....hope it helps and best of luck!
One of the best pieces of advice I ever got on determining the worth of a relationship I got from the charachtar Samantha on sex and the city, believe it or not! She said the measure of a relationship was whether he "has you like this" at which she pulled a big smiling face, or whether he "has you like this" at which she pulled a miserable crying face! It was amazingly simple but so true, I laughed my arse off.
When I've come to the crossroads in a relationship and I dont know if I want to go on or not I look back over the relationship and weigh up the good times and the bad. If one outweighs the other to any significant degree then I know I've got my answer.
So I think, if everything was going really well and then you had a shitty two weeks thats really not a valid reason to break up. Just keep an eye on things and if you want them to improve, just remember you have to be active in working twords that too. It isnt likely to just happen on it's own and we're all responsible for nurturing the relationships we're involved in. Good luck.
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