Boring, Dull, Lonely

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This week ive had a major fucking wake up call, if u may nt know, ive split up with my gf, but we still talk as friends. Last night we were talking about my life, and she's a bit of a weird one, and so likes to improve peoples life per say.

Anyway, she tells me im boring, dull and lonely, its just these words have woken me up. Doesnt help either that this 'friend' told me that i'd die a "lonely old man", and (after i complained back about how hard my lifes been) "commit suicide, you wont have many friends to mourn you"

But im not bitching about the convo, its what she said, its true. Im currently nearing the end of the school holidays (im 15) and ive only left the house twice, once with some friends, another with my ex that went kinda badly. I have no clubs to go to, i have hardly no interests and my only friends lie at school, and even then its a low number.
im naturally shy, and despise cocky people, which my school is full of.

BUt i just want to break out of being boring, and dull and hopeflly through that gain some friends in my life. But i dont know how, i have no interests whatsoever, dont know how to gain or sustain interests either.

Ah love, I hate hearing about young people feeling this way. At 15 you're only starting out in life, and things'll get better with time if you work on them, not worse.That was a particularly horrible thing your friend said about commiting suicide. I hope you have the sense to disregard things like that that are not worth listening to.Staying in all the time will almost certainly contribute to you 'feeling low' as you put it. Everyone needs a change of scene. There's no surer way to end up depressed than sitting home looking at the walls all day.

It doesn't sound to me like she wants to improve peoples lives! I'm only 18, so I don't want to say this but, dude, you're so young. How the hell can she say you'll die a lonely old man? What's wrong with lonely old men anyway? There is nothing wrong with being a little antisocial and spending time alone. If you had the right people in your life-- and maybe you dont now but will someday-- you'll spend time with them. I know I'd rather be alone than hanging with people who suck. As for interests-- if you just try and pick something that "interests" you, it wouldn't be for real, you'd be trying to hard, so just go about you rbusiness, read some books to see what interests you, and don't sweat this at all. That girl sucks and you should laugh her off and go about living your life.

peace,

You're obviously on the internet, so search around and find something that DOES interest you. Damn....I wish the internet existed when I was a kid...it would have made life SO much easier. However, I understand how the internet can be a crutch....if that's the only place you go.My advice: Go take a walk. See a place you haven't seen before. Stop in a shop you always wanted to stop in and see what might interest you. Talk to someone you've always wanted to talk to because they do something you've secretly wanted to do.My friend, life exists for a reason--for living! And I'll let you in on a secret....life goes on FAR beyond your teenage years. I'm more than twice your age and I can't imagine not having seen the things I have. It's out there...go find it!!!Best of luck to you. Oh, one more thing: don't listen to stupid and negative people!

Well I'm sorry to say but you dated a total fuck up in life and she needs to learn how and when to use honesty. It seems arrogant and completely moronic for her to do something like that (words cannot describe).

Anyways, seeing how you're 15 and you're still dependant on your parents (or guardians) you can't have too giant of a social life. I know mine sort of lacking, but fuck I'm only 14. I just try to go to school events or go to a hang-out spot somewhere, I do that stuff like 3 times a year though and I still am considered popular.

Using my own bad experiences as advice, you should learn that people will respect you as a person more if you let them know about your life. Don't keep things secretive from everyone, if you have an experience in life tell someone about it, especially those people who you are tyring to make friends with. They will be thankful that they have been let into your life and know something 'personal' about you.If you don't tell people about yourself or your life then they will probably jump to their own judgemental conlcusions, which may not be the kind of judgements you were hoping for.You won't be perceived as being "DULL" if you always have something to tell. Therefore, you won't be perceived as being "LONELY" either (or feel lonely) because the people around you will know that they can rely on you to start a conversation of make them feel happier by talking to them personally.And as for being "BORING", well that's just subjective and one person's 'boring' can be another person's 'ecstasy'. Just concentrate on what you find exciting and maybe other people around you will start to respect you for these hobbies/interests. If your hobby forms part of your image (regardless of what it is), then people will accept your hobby as much as they accept you.Please keep yuor chin up.