Friend i want to be more, please help im helpless

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theres this girl who i am really really good friends with, but in the last several months, like 6 or 7 ive been feeling really attracted to her, to me she is the most perfect person i can ever meet.anyway i told her how i felt about 3 months ago, except she was going out with another guy. the answer i got 'was i really like you too, but i'm already going with this other guy and i love him very much and wouldnt cheat on him(which i didnt excpect her too obviously im her friend) but i would really like to see where we could go'. so anyway a week later me and my friends went to see a movie and part way through she curled up on her seat and put her head on my shoulder and held my arm which made me feel high as a kite.she said she did it coz she wanted to be closer to me but since there nothing has really happened, except that she broke up with her bf, i don't know how to bring it up with her again in the right way i tried once again a while back and ended up messing it up by saying something crap like 'hey i still sorta like you' and she replied with 'its ok' im worried ive made it seem like im embaressed about loving her, because i do, anyway this has turned into a babble so ill stop now and see what u guys think...also i'd like to point out that i am 16 and have never had a girlfriend or anything before so i have no experience in this sorta thing

I'd take it in stages. Start by asking her to movies, meals, etc with you, and see how it progresses from there. If she turns you down she's not really interested; if she doesn't, her love may grow.

thanks, im just worried coz we dont really do stuff by ourselves, we're part of a very close knit group and it might be a bit obvious??? any thoughts

If you want to take it further, then getting just by yourselves is essential, even if it's obvious.Sometimes tight groups like that can put a lot of pressure on couples doing things by themselves. The group knows that when they become a couple they will no longer be full members of the group.

Ineligible is right: take it slow and easy. Hey, you started as friends and friendship can take you a LONG way. Spend time with her...let her see what a great guy you are...but don't look at her every moment with absolute adoration, because many women find that overwhelming. Tone down your interest and keep yourself in her view, so to speak.Best of luck, my friend!

i'm in the same situation. i've know this girl for like 8 or 9 years and i am 16 now and i've told her how i felt but she said she didnt want to mess up our friendship by going furtheri wont see her tll easter as she lives in belium adn comes over on holidaysany advice?

Not sure what to tell you, guy...sounds like she isn't interested in you that way. Sorry, but if you've known her that long and she's willing to let you down easy--and it appears to be the case--I think you should focus your attention elsewhere. Oh, and you'd be surprised at what effect your paying attention to another woman and none to her can do...my experience has been that women in general hate that. I wouldn't be rude, but just lower your interest level and play it a little cooler.

Best of luck and let us know how it goes!

Hmmmm.. I see.. I always suspected you men played games like that, lol!

Well, star, if you women didn't have half the money and ALL the pussy, we wouldn't have to!

There is some truth in that I suppose, ha ha. But I do agree that a dose of the green-eye can work wonders, so Andyroo, take note, I know game playing is not usually advisable, but desperate measures are sometimes called for. If you do decide to go that route though be sure to be subtle about it, as there is nothing as pathetic as somebody who is obviously trying to make you jealous..

Okay...be subtle as a really SMALL brick

ok thanks guys this is my first post on here and its helped a lot thank you!!

Or a pebble perhaps, ha ha.

Well thank you, andyroo14, for the kind words.

i was just wondering is it the same solution for my prob?

I've gone through the 'relationships' threads and cant find your post. What forum is it in?

Oh I see, it's in this thread, sorry. I dont know what to say there Husky, not trying to be cruel, but if you've known somebody this long and she isnt interested it's certainly not cause she hasnt had enough time to make up her mind! Maybe you should concentrate on meeting other girls and, just possibly, that could jog her into realising she has feelings she didnt know she had, but I think the most likely positive outcome of that would be your finding somebody else you wanted to be with. Good luck, x.