Okay, so I've been friends with this girl for a while. I really like her, and I think she likes me a bit as well. Her birthday is coming up pretty soon, so my question is..What should I get her? Or should I get her anything? Now I know this is going to be tough to answer, since you don't know her or I, but I'd really appreciate it if you guys at least gave me a few ideas.Thanks a ton.
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Her birthday..
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Fucked if ya do and fucked if ya dont.Iv been with my girl for a few years now, I always madea big deal of her bday, cake and presents and a sitter for the kids and night out for us.This year she said " I dotw ant anything and no cake, it just another day"I thought well shes 33 now, pissy about that, she wants nothing she will get nothing.I heard about it all fucking night long and for weeks after, and stil on occasion if she can find a way to slip it in.I didnt do shit for her bday, no cake no nothing she atleast made sure I had a cake.I on the other hand told her to not wporry about my bday, havent cared since i was a kid about it.I unlike her, meant it.you best do something for her, its better ot hear you didnt have to do this ! a million times then what a prick you are for the rest of the time you know the girl.make it someting small since your not realy dating her, or ask her out for her bday, hit a movie and dinner, or a picknic after dark with some cake and finger foods.
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P - Prolly need to tread carefully here - if you sent her a dozen roses it might get you laid or might get you totally knocked out of the picture. Its up to you how well you know her - if you want to take a chance and try to take it to the next level something quite romatic like roses or a small bottle of perfume, a box of chocolates - but if you just want to test the waters a birthday card in the "friendship" tone would be more appropriate and probably enough to get her attention - just the fact that you did something even if just a card could be enough to impress her.Good luck!
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The nice card is a great idea--people love to know that someone remembered them on their special day.From past experience, I can say this: I once knew a girl that I really liked, but she was dating some friggin' loser at the time. One day while in the college library studying for a test, this poem about her started percolating in my mind. It took me about two days to get it right....and then it got WAY out of hand. I took it to a friend's place and we printed it out on some nice paper, then I took it to my brother's and he framed it for me (he's a photographer and frames his own stuff). Okay, so then I have this poem I wrote, matted and framed...a monument to an idea that got out of hand (read that particular phrase in a book--it's not original). Anyway, I gave it to her after class one day and she absolutely loved it. She didn't dump the loser boyfriend, I didn't get laid and I have no idea what's become of her, now, but I'm willing to bet wherever she is, that poem is still hanging on her wall as it was in her old college apartment.Does that help at all?
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Binther - LOL! Great story as it so much reminds me of some of my past feeble attempts. One time in college I left a short - what I thought quite clever - poem in a note on a young lady's desk on my way out of class. Hoping for the best...next time I passed her in the hallway if looks could kill I would be in hell by now!
I often wonder if she when is old and grey she will pull that out of her old memories box and wish she had been a bit more receptive...ah, what a fool believes! :blush:
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LOL! I certainly hope the girl you were interested in attempts to kick herself when she's old enough to break a hip trying!As for my object of interest...well...we became pretty good friends and I ended up hearing ALL about how the loser she was dating dumped all over her---she had some self-esteem issues from her past....'nuff said.As for those kinds of gestures in general, I think they are fine, if some a little over-the-top. Still, if you want to really attract a woman's attention, I don't think asking "what's your sign?" in a bar will do it anymore. After a couple-plus decades of experience, I think I'm better equipped--mentally--to do that, but I doubt my fiancee would approve.To the OP: if you really want to be noticed, find out what she's interested in and do something out of the ordinary with those interests in mind to attract her attention. Oh, and one more thing: be certain you don't embarass her in front of her friends if you ever want a date with her!Best of luck!