Ok, so I am new to here and hear this place can help people by asking certain questions. so i decided to come and so heres my question. I am a 14 year old male and I don't know how to cum. I also don't know alot about cum, like what it looks like. When I masturbate, alot of times I get this wierd feeling, so I think it is cum maybe, but it wont come out so I go near a toilet and I pee instead of cum. I have no clue, but is this normal? is the pee suppose to come out? what is pre cum and I know some say you are not old enough, but I think I am, especially since i have been going through puberty really early and I think I should be able to cum, but can't figure out why not. So can anyone tell me what pre cum is, why am I peeing instead of cumming, and is it normal? If you could answer these I would really appreciate it.
Welcome to AfraidToAsk, Macm!
Pre-cum is a sticky clear liquid that may slowly ooze out when you are hard and horny. Its purpose is to lubricate the tubes, but the amount different guys produce varies a lot. Some guys produce enough to come out in regular drops, while others may produce no visible pre-cum at all, or it can be anything in between. You don't feel pre-cum coming out.
Unlike pre-cum, cum is only released at orgasm. It is a viscous, pearl-whitish or slightly yellowish liquid, but when guys first start being able to produce it it is often clear, because not all the glands start working at the same time. At orgasm it comes out in spurts, pushed out by muscular contractions within your body. Some guys shoot it out a fair distance, but for others it just oozes out in spurts.
Orgasm is a pleasurable sensation through your body, centred on your genitalia. It's possible to have orgasms before your body is able to produce cum - in this case they are known as dry orgasms.
When orgasm is near, there is a feeling that you get to recognise, but from what other people have also said, it seems that people without experience often take it as a feeling of needing to pee. It isn't, and your peeing is just ordinary peeing that your doing because you don't know what else to do. If you don't stop to pee but instead keep masturbating, and your body is ready, you'll find you'll soon reach a point where orgasm will happen and you can't stop it. You won't pee.
Not everyone can do this at 14. Everyone is different and even starting puberty early doesn't guarantee that ejaculation won't start later. However it's well worth trying masturbating through that first feeling. (A good fantasy helps too.) You'll know when you've reached orgasm.