My g/f is bi, when we first started going out, the thought of my g/f with another girl was too much, and I told her I didn't like it, but now, I'm curious, and want to have a threesome or something, how do I go about doing it?
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Threesome dilemma
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My initial reaction would be, dont! If you go ahead with it I think it's likely your initial feelings will resurface and it will damage your relationship. If you do decide to go for it though, I wouldnt have any idea how to tell you to go about it, sorry, it's just I've I've no experience in that area as I've so far refused to indulge my partner that particular fantasy, ha ha.
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I agree with starfish. Often when it actually happens, jealousy that people thought wouldn't arise, does.
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I take the view that:Yes it probably would screw up your relationshipHOWEVERIt will be something which you can cross of your "things to do before you die" list.I believe the gain to risk ration makes it worth it. Just both get drunk and then mention it to her or something, hopefully she'll remember it when you are both sober the day after and will grant your request at some point. If she was Bi then old habbit die hard, she might want to do it herself.Mr. Nuts
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"It will be something which you can cross of your "things to do before you die" list."Some things, like bungie-jumping without a bungie-cord attached, are best left off the list.
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Well, here's a question which so far hasn't been asked: does you gf still have those leanings? And has she made comments that she'd like to do it with you involved? If so, then I'd say indulge her as long as you have a say in the partner (and get to pick some incredibly HOT chick). If not, then you're better off letting sleeping dogs lie, so to speak. Oh, and, should you ever actually get the chance to live out this fantasy, there are two things you should remember: 1) make sure the other girl isn't someone your gf has had a relationship with in the past, and 2) don't spend more time on the other girl than you do with your gf.Best of luck and I REALLY hope you let us know how you're doing...occasionally we all have to live vicariously through others.
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If she is bi, she may do it anyways and it would be an awfully shame not to catch the train. Take what you can get now before it's too late and the oportunity is forever gone. If the relationship lasts...great, if it doesn't...oh well it was not your fault foe exploring the options.
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I am new to the board, but have some experience in this area. I have had several threesomes and foursomes while in a committed relationship. I am straight and she is bi. We had mmf, ffm, mmff, and fffm. At the time it was great, no jealousy, and life was good. However, things change. It messes with your mind. What it did to me was rationalize cheating. I got to the point where I would rationalize, "If she was ok with it when we are all together what difference does it make apart?" At that point the realationship was over for me. If I was going o think that way then I did not need to be in that relationship. We quickly got divorced. If you are single and want to give it a go, go for it. There are a lot of opportunties out there. My college years is where it all happened. I am now in a monogimous relationship with a beautiful woman. We have had the 3some talk already and we both agree it something we should not let in our bedroom. From experience, the best part of the 3 somes and moresomes was the build up. After you got to the sex, it was, eh, ok. The best sex is in a committed loving 2 party engagement. YMMV.
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Thanks for giving us the benefit of your experience, rabidchicken. Welcome to A2A!
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Wise words...how old did you say you were?
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I'm 29.
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Cool....and your rating has just risen one point! Hooray!