So... there's this girl that I like who's also my classmate in almost every class in college. She's my bestfriend and she tells me everything and I tell her everything. Well, except for one thing. That I like her. And I really do. It's just that she just came from an almost relationship as the last guy that courted her quit somewhere in between and she liked the guy. She did tell me that she's moving on but then she still thinks about him from time to time. And recently we've spent so much time together that our friends are indirectly pushing for us to be together since they also hated the last guy. But then yeah. She also told me that as long as we don't hold hands in public or anything that confirms that we're a couple since we technically aren't, it's all fine. She even told me that once we get our respective significant others, all these gossip about us happening will disappear. I do like her. It's just that I don't know how to handle this since I can't tell if she's ok with it that I push forward and tell her or whether or not I should just keep it as being very close friends.
How should I approach this?
Welcome to A2A, GrahamCrackers. I think this is a difficult one and I wouldn't be sure how to act, either. I think you should tell her at some stage, as otherwise you will never know what might have been, but is it too early, too close to the last guy? I'm not sure.
Tell her mate. You never know. Because I guarantee one day in your life you will look back and say, "damn I wonder what would have happened if I only told her that I liked her."However, you must first decide what you value more with this girl: her friendship or the possible intimacy.
Welcome GrahamCrackers,Got to agree with JDLN and the professor, if you don't tell her you will never know. She could feel the same way. But if you leave it you might become closer friends.I liked a girl and was really close friends for 3 years and then finally got together with her. So depending on the individual circumstances it is possible but everyone is different. Depends if you want to play the long term game or just come out with the truth.Only you can make the decision. Sorry its probably not what you want to hear.Da Hawk
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