Alright, so here's the deal.
I've known this girl since I was a Junior in high school. Met her in health class, hit it off, and went on a date (a movie, to be exact). Things kind of cooled off after that. We talked online, but never got together over the summer.
Senior year, things got a bit more interesting. We shared a lunch period, so sat together and started unofficially going out. But nothing romantic developed.
After graduation, we continued to talk online, but I would only see her occasionally for a movie every now and then. On her blog, she posted something about feeling bored with me.
That all changed after spring break my first year of college. i went over to her house to watch The Matrix on DVD (she had never seen it). After, before i left, we found ourselves face to face. she took the initiative and gave me a small kiss on my lips. i responded with a longer, more passionate kiss. we then went to her couch and just held eachother for about an hour, talking about how dumb we were about having not expressed our feelings sooner.
that summer, however, she moved with her family out of state. by that time, she was coming over just about every week to watch anime and make out. we decided to commit to a long-distance relationship, as she was determined to return to go to school.
we talked on the internet for the next year, until this summer, she flew up by herself to come stay with me. things got really passionate now. we made out every night, i would rub her breasts and ass, and she found it really hot to chew on my earlobes. since im still living at home, and we are both in agreement to save ourselves for marriage, she of course slept in another bed. however, each morning, she would climb in with me to wake me up. we would kiss and hold eachother for a few minutes. after a couple days, she started getting under the blankets with me.
Now Im planning on going to see her this christmas break. we talk just about every night online, and many times the conversations get a bit dirty. not quite full-on cyber sex, but pretty dang close.
recently, things got really dirty, and she admitted to me that she watches hentai porn. suffice to say, i was a bit surprised...but in a good way. I would classify myself as a bit of a geek (build computers, play a lot of video games...my major is information tech), so having a girlfriend that admits she wants to watch hentai with me? well, thats pretty much a geek's dream come true.
We have a lot of common interests: comic books/manga, action/scifi/fantasy movies, and anime. and we share the morals of saving ourselves for marriage, and we both chose not to drink or do drugs (a very attractive, yet rare trait amongst my peers). Also, she doesnt care at all that i play so many pc and xbox 360 games...in fact, whenever i perform well, it seems to turn her on
However, the more im thinking about flying down to see her this xmas, the more im getting second thoughts. her family is going to be there, and i always feel so awkward around her dad. she's half mexican, with her dad being the mexican half. now, its not that im racist or anything, but it still feels weird.
Also, she keeps wanting to talk about our future. her plan is to finish tech school down there, then come up and rent a place with me. appearantly i have a fear of commitment, because this scares the frak out of me.
That, and she seems to get too needy sometimes. she will leave sometimes 3 or more messages on my cell phone on a single day, just talking about random stuff.
so what do you think? would i be stupid to pull back from this relationship? everytime i have second thoughts, i try to realize how lucky i am to have met someone like her...but still, thinking flying down to see her gives me this bad feeling in the pit of my stomach.
Sorry about the long post. haha. Its just i really dont have a place to express these emotions im feeling.
Lucky and too stupid to realize it?
Alright, so here's the deal.
wow...sounds like you two are made for each other. every relationship needs work and committment from each other, so i think you two can make it. STAY TOGETHER!!!
*~I don't mind living in a man's world..As long as I can be a woman in it!~* -Marilyn
Stick with her dude, a girl like that is a very rare find. Don't worry about her dad, I think it's a built in protocal that all guys should be afraid of their girl's dad. Culture too can be difficult, simply because you don't know what to expect or how to react. Three messages in a day is nothing either. If she just wants to tell you about her day or talk for a bit that's fine. Clingy girls (to me at least) only become a problem when they start demanding they see you everyday and every night, will never let you have a night out with the boys, or even just a night alone, which I sometimes enjoy.
My advise is to fly down and see her, tell about your doubts and why. Communication is the most important part of any relationship! Trust me, I learnt this the hard way. If after seeing her, and talking, you're still unsure, perhaps then break it off.
well, i met this girl on line, her and i agree on near everything, only problem? she lives in toronto, life sucks
her leaving 3 messages on ur phone means that she can't stop thinkng about u, and u should feel special
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Not that I'm into that scene, but a woman who is turned on when you play video games? And has no problem with you playing them? Wait....strike that...reverse it. Sorry--always loved Willy Wonka. Damn, dude, why would you give that up? Go...spend time with the family--especially the dad--and talk with her about any serious concerns you have, but 3 messages on the cell phone shouldn't be one of them; my fiancee and I live 15 minutes away from each other and often speak three times in the 5-6 hours from the time we get home from work (where we're in the same building) to when we go to sleep....that's just love.
Best of luck!
im with u :P
im that girl...basically...i too am in a long distance relationship (n i mean LONG -im here in the us n hes bak home in oz) we msg numerous times a day n call like every 2nd or 3rd day. it works for us. o he plays video games n stuf too n i really dont give a shit,as long as he doesnt forget about me
Plain and simple, go see her and see what happens.
Clingy? One of my ex-girlfriends had me call her everynight at 9pm and wouldn't let me go for at least 2 hours. EVERYNIGHT! After about a month, there was a lot of long pauses of not much to say. I learned to play Final Fantasy while I was on the phone with her to make the very long pauses not so bad. I guess it wouldn't have been so bad if she didn't cry everytime I talked to her. She would cry for 30 minutes at a time saying how she missed me so much and this and that... some people aren't cut out for long distance. I hope that makes the Clingy feeling she's putting out seem minor.
damn dude, sounds like she was crazy! Hope that you don't have to deal with that anymore
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LOL. That's not even close to the worst part. But, luckily I don't have to deal with that anymore. With every relationship I learn something new. From that relationship, one thing I learned is I don't want to date anyone that has a very low self-esteem.