So it's been about a month of high school so far, and I am really dissapointed. No it's not really what you think, my classes are all pretty great, the teachers are nice, my marks are good and the homework load isn't to heavy yet. So most of you probably are wondering what's wrong then. It's basically my friends. So many of them have completely changed since last year. My best friend since I was 8 went to a different school for the emphasis on the drama program there, and I really miss him. My other best friend has basically stopped hanging out with our group and hardly even talks to me, even if I see him on the bus ride home. My ex girlfriend and I are also still quite close, but with this year she has hardly talked to me. Our lockers are about 3 feet away, but whenever we start talking, she says she has to go, and she goes to hang out with her friends from church. She says she hardly see's them, but she has to be with them a good 3 hours a day, and with me and my friends maybe 5 minutes. Some of my other friends are quite quiet this year also, and I only really have good conversations with 3/4 people this year, when last year it was about 15-20. It's making me depressed, and I just want things to go back to what they used to be. But it probably won't happen, and we'll all slowly drift away from each other, and our friendship will be ruined. So that's my rant, and I wouldn't mind some input/advice on my current situation.
I think I hate high school...(rant)
it's a hard one when people get older and their interests change or friends move away or whatever. I guess the best thing I can suggest is to look for new activities to engage in where you can meet other people who share interests akin to yours. Whether it's a school club or a church or youth group or bowling or scouts or whatever, check them out and see what fits your particular interests, then join up and enjoy. Oh, and don;t try too hard ot make new friends, just let friendships evolve as your participation increases and the others notice you and take a liking to you.
People do grow apart, and things like a change of school often emphasise it. But it also means you have room for new friends.
I know, but I'm not all that good at making friends at such, since I don't really act like myself until I know the person quite well...I talked to a few people in my math class today and I met this girl that seems pretty cool. But it's hard because everyone has their own click from their old school...
its harsh..but im gonna say it...get used to it. i just finished high school and people change like crazy. everyone chages, but high school is where people change the most. im assuming its just cause of the fact that its your last few years of school and people are growing up a little and trying to figure out what they want to do with their life. ive been finished school since june and all my friends are moved or changed immensely, so i rarely talk to any of them. it was VERY hard on me at first, but im ok now. and so will you. it takes a few months to get used to the change from junior high to high school, but soon you will make new friends, and it wil be better
good luck <3
*~I don't mind living in a man's world..As long as I can be a woman in it!~* -Marilyn
Wait until everyones been gone to college for a few years. This one guy I went to high school with was a major jackass. I couldn't stand the guy. One night, I'm sitting in a local upscale restaurant and I see him from a distance. He comes over, talks to me a little bit, said bye and left. To my surprise, he was cool as hell. He went to college in California for a couple years and presto! It's funny how people change.
>my classes are all pretty great, the teachers are nice, my marks are good and the homework load isn't to heavy yet
You lucky bastard. The only thing I have in common with you is the marks thing, and that's boardering.
>My ex girlfriend and I are also still quite close
She's your ex. A lot of times people are still close after breaking up because they aren't really over each other yet. She's over you now, and she doesn't really want to be friends. Deal with it. (Harsh, eh?)
Go talk to people that sit next to you in class. Join extracuricular activities, and talk to the people that are in those. Don't exclude lower or upper classmen (I say this, because a lot of people either think they are too good for lower classmen, or are too intimidated by the upper ones). Just find a common ground with people, and it is always better to be a more positive person, rather than negative.
<span style="color: #00CCCC"> It's your thing, do what you wanna do. I can't tell you who to sock it to.</span>
yep, those cliques do carry over from lower schools but you at least made a start by talkign to them in class. Now go find a club or other group that does things you like then join up and see if that doesn't help you in finding people with a similar interest to work on your social life a little more.
Moral is to keep tryign and seeking new venues'opportunities to socialize in.