Well , I'm 18 years old and when I was around 12 or something my friend told me I had a half sister.I thaught he was just bull****ting but then I went home that night and I asked my mother and I told her please don't lie to me.And then she started crying and she was like you deserve to know the truth you're dad has a daughter and she lives in Sweden, (I live in Canada)She was shocked that her best friend (my friends mother) told him this.I don't even know her name but I know shes around 20 -25? and has a kid so technically im someones uncle I guess..Also I have a brother, he's 15 and we live together but he has no idea about having a step sister somewhere in this world.Also in the 18 years I've been living with my father , he has never mentioned this.Now my question is , if you guys were in my situation.. would you wan't to meet with her someday or maybe you wouldn't care? I mean we have the same dad..that kinda makes us close =/?Any opinions would be greatly appreciated because there aren't many people I can discuss this with...Have a nice day.
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I don't even know my half sister.
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Personally, I'd like to meet her. I'd say it's worth a shot, it can be useful having family in another country . But the choice is up to you.
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Do you have any way of getting a letter or email to her? Do you know if she knows?Be prepared for the possibility that she may not want contact. If your dad didn't treat her mother well she may not want anything to do with your family.
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I'd want to meet her.But, take heed of Ineligible's warning. Sometimes it just doesn't work out when you seek an extended blood family. It happens with adopted kids sometimes too.
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My dad hasn't spoken to his daughter in like 20 years..He like wants nothing to do with that family.I guess he started a new life with us and doesn't want anything to do with his past. I know what you mean ineligible, dude I was thinking of the possibility that she wouldn't want to meet me, but I never did anything to her.. I just find it weird how I 've never spoken and might never speak to someone that shares the same father as me..sigh
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I'd meet her.I wouldn't go all the way to sweeden specially but, if I was in Europe at the time I'd ask if she wanted to meet.I wouldn't expect much if I were you but, its ok to be curious and want to meet her.
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I have a half brother somewhere, and i did have some contact with him through a couple of letters when i was about 15-16 when i managed to find and contact my biological father, however, finding my maker was a disaster and i was SO disappointed and once again rejected that i have never bothered to contact my half brother since........reunions don't always work and i won't put myself out there for more rejection LOL
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My son has three half sisters. His natural father has three daughters between two different women. I sat my son down a few months ago and told him the truth about this. He was a bit surprised but sort of happy about it (he's such a little optimist!) He was raised up to that point as an only child. I thought that, at twelve, he was ready to hear about this and I was also heading off the possibility of his ever having your unfortunate experience of hearing about it from somebody else, I didnt ever want the situation to arise where he could feel he had been lied to. I explained to him that I hadnt told him before that because he was just too young. I made it clear that I hadnt been telling lies, just witholding a truth till he was old enough to hear it. Now we have agreed that when he's eighteen he can initiate contact if that's what he wants. I still smile when I think about his reaction (that I'd feared for so long!) he was just like "that's grand ma, Lord.. sisters..) and off he went out playing with his friends! I think it's a real mistake when parents lie to kids, even when it's well intentioned, because it damages the trust between them and the people who they are supposed to trust more than anyone in the world.I think you should initiate contact if that's what you want to do, but do heed the previous advice that it might not be all roses in the garden. There may be resentments there still, you dont know what your half sisters mother has indoctrinated her to believe about your family, especially if it was a situation where your father left that women to be with your mother. Do it if you want to I'd say, just go into it with your emotional guard up. Good luck.
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I have a half sister somewhere that’s my age (26) as well as a half brothers that’s around 29 years old. I just found out like a year ago I have another half brother that would be around 38 years old; they are all from my father.I honestly cannot say I have a desire to meet any of them. Not to be mean or crude but I have lived 26 years without them and I see no need to meet them. Now if they contacted me and they wanted to meet, I would be hesitant but I would meet them, not for myself but for them. But as for forming a bound/relationship like a brother or sister would have… not really up for that at this point in my life.
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I was also in the same situation. I have a half sister and two half brothers. I did meet them and honestly it was awkward. The only thing we had in common was we all hated our dad. Not something fun to talk about over dinner ya know.I am a thousand times closer to my step-brother and sister than I would ever be to the half siblings. Bottom line though is, it is up to you if you want to contact her.
