Ok it's been awhile since I've posted here but I really need an unbiased opinion and this website came to mind.My problem involves a girl. We ended a 1.5 year relationship last December and I knew we cudn't be just friends so we went our seperate ways. She came back into the picture around late July and we both didn't know if we wanted to get back together. That didn't really stop us from doing everything a couple would do anyway.Long story short I'm falling for her again but I don't know why. She certainly hasn't fallen for me. And in the beginning it was great and I was unsure then. But recently she's been crabby and we bicker over small things. Maybe I feel I need to "snap her up" because there are 2 other guys interested in her. She says she only wants to be friends with them and I totally believe her but in some cases I think she plays them to get what she wants out of them. Im scared she might be trying to do the same with me because she knows I can't be just friends in the long run so she might just be keeping me around for her own benefit.Right now I want to be with her BUT at the same time I'm so angry with her I wish she'd just hit the road. It's like one week we click so unbelievably well then the next she doesn't give a shit about anything and criticizes everything I do. And this is at a point in my life were I've finally built up my self-esteem and self-confidence and it's like she's slowly taking it down brick by brick.I guess I'm scared to tell her off because she knows me better then anyone despite our time apart. I wonder if she is right about me. But the problems she says I have I have never run into with other friends or girls. She just says they are too polite to mention it but I think she has high expectations for guys if she wants to date them.A lot of my friends are concerned about me and her because they all fell she is all wrong for me. She thinks my friends are all wrong for me. It's just she is soooo damn good looking... I mean damn... it's so hard to give it up especially when you think "hey we've clicked in the recent past.... maybe one day we can click all the time and it'd be great!"What should I do? Or try? Any ideas to think about or things to try out? I wanna give this a lot of thought and not make a snap decision I might regret.-Hyp
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What to do with her
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She dosn't sound good for you at all.Being with a partner should make you a better person, not destroy your self confidence.Sounds like shes being abit manipulitive with you and you shouldn't put up with it.I know it's hard because you have history...and she's hot but, you need to cut your losses and move on befor she gets to you even more. Really, it's not worth the damage to your emotional self to hang around and hope it can go back to how it was.You can't change her and make it so you'll "click all the time"I vote you move on.
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It sounds to me like she's playing you. You may have clicked, but if this girl is constantly criticizing you I don't think she's worth it. Find someone who accepts you for who you are.
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hiya mate, I hate to say this, but, if you look through some of my other posts, you'll see that I'm not talking from nothing when I say this, but, you should really let her go ... it sounds to me like she just wants a position of power for something that she's lacking in her life, so, she'll crush you until you're nothing but her plaything if you let her... I know how hard it is, trust me, I do, feels like you'll never meet anyone else, but, you will, it'll take time to heal, but, you're better off away, believe me... you'll look back on it all one day, and, you'll no doubt be offering the same advice to someone else here, even if you stay there, cause, it'll go south eventually, whatever you do now sadly to say, so, you're best off bringing on the enevitable yourself, you'll feel better long term if you doDan
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yea man, It sounds liek she's playing oyu, I would have to agree with everyone else, your gonna have to let her go
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I hate to do this (merely echo others) but I read your post and the responses thus far and I agree 100%. It is time to move on and end it with her. You two broke up with good reason once and since you got back together it has been an unsettling roller coaster for you. So take th eadvice of your friends (all your friends can't be wrong and her the only right person) and walk away. Spend more time with friends, date others, etc. but get past what was and move forward toward something much better with another person.