My Girlfriend is very unsecure..... she has dated guys in the past and they have all left her for other chicks and she thinks im going to leave her, but i keep telling her i love her and i will never leave her but she still wont except has anyone ever had this problem what can i say to build her confidence up
My Girlfriend is very unsecure.
im that exact same way as your gf. i find it VERY hard to trust guys cuz ive been cheated on too.
it will take a lot of time and effort for her to trust you (no offence).
*~I don't mind living in a man's world..As long as I can be a woman in it!~* -Marilyn
Yeh i thought that was the only way to slowly build up her trust
I've never been cheated on, thank God, because I'm a very emotional/affectionate person unfortunately. like your GF I'm very insecure too. But I'm working on that. I think in her situation she's on the defensive so she won't be hurt again. Try and comfort her. Show her that you won't leave her. Give her signs that you're not like the others, that you love her, and that she can always trust you.
"Isso é como nós latinas/meninas pretas fazemos. Vá ou flua.. ya digg?"
first thing - staying together over the long haul will slowly (ever so slowly) convince her that you are serious.
second thing - she needs to stop talking as if you are poised and ready to run away lest all her worrying and negative thinking drive you away.
third thing - telling her repeatedly that you love her, want her and all that just doesn't work all that well. Odds are all the guys in the past said basically the same things right up until they departed her scene. Instead if you are intent on sticking with her, your actions will speak volumes more than your words. No, don't stop saying things; just don;t say stuff as a reply to her fear; instead be there, do things together and feel free to compliment her on her looks, etc. in the natural course of things. To respond to her fears is to defend yourself when there is nothing to defend since you are still there holding her hand, hugging her and doing things with her.